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MANY years back I read Henry James’s advice: “Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.” It did seem to resonate in my altruistic heart, but at some level also appeared to be too utopian.

Recently, I happened to go through a back issue of “Reader’s Digest” (Jan 2009), which contained a lovely article titled, ‘Why kindness is good for you.’ Some of its findings will truly motivate many people to try and be kinder.

An American academic analysed ancient societies and discovered that kindness was a key component of survival of communities. A new theory, ‘survival of the nicest’ was born, which says that the human race prospered as a species just due to kindness. “Groups with many altruists tend to survive,” he notes, because they are apt to cooperate and contribute to the group’s wellbeing.

A study by Prof Stephen Post, author of ‘Why Good Things Happens to Good People,’ of 2016 church members, found that those who regularly helped others had better mental health and lower rates of depression. Other studies too demonstrated a strong correlation between the wellbeing, happiness and health of folks who are kind, he says.

If we observe life closely enough, we will realise that it becomes more livable when there are at least some idealistic and compassionate people around. Similarly, if faced on a regional and global level, then it cannot be addressed successfully if everybody acts selfishly.

Another important lesson is that we can easily train ourselves to be kinder just by performing more kind deeds and on a regular basis. It must also be realised that all major religions teach their followers to love others and act compassionately, treating others as we would like to be treated ourselves (the golden rule).For instance, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) had taught: “You should be kind to those who are on earth, and He, Who is in the Heavens, will be kind to you.” He had also said: “Love is the foundation of my existence.”

We Pakistanis are going through particularly hard, violent and loveless times and the only cure is to shower oodles of love and kindness upon our compatriots, putting Pakistan ahead of selfish motives.

As I like to put it, life’s priorities are three: The first is to love. The second is to love. And the third is to love.

May Allah make Pakistan the land of love and peace that it used to be, Aameen.


Comments (6) Closed

Gerry D'Cunha Sep 02, 2012 09:28am
An excellent article - I hope the 'mullah's' read and follow I would like to quote from the Holy Bible when Jesus said to the people 'Listen to me,all of you, and understand. Nothing that goes into a man from outside can make him unclean;it is the things that comes out of a man that make him unclean. For it is from within, from men's hearts, that evil intentions emerge:fornication,theft,murder,adultery,avarice,malice,deceit,inndecency,envy,slander,pride,folly. All these evil things come from within and make a man unclean.'
G. Thind Sep 02, 2012 07:20am
Go and represent minorities of Pakistan in general and that poor girl in particular - but beware of the Mullah's bite who are bent upon turning Pakistan into a most hated country in the world. Pakistan is a Mullah ridden country.
Agha Ata Sep 03, 2012 01:09am
Before partition!
rashid Sep 02, 2012 03:33pm
No doubt,Islam teaches us kindness and love to each other even to take care of minorities. It seems we have forgotten the golden teachings of Islam.
Noorani Sep 02, 2012 06:01am
"May Allah make Pakistan the land of love and peace that it used to be". May I know, when was that?
MD Sep 02, 2012 01:51pm
Good question..