Illustration by Aamnah Arshad
Illustration by Aamnah Arshad

So friends, have you ever been stuck in a situation where you wanted to speak what comes into your mind, but you weren’t sure about how to do it without being rude to someone? Well, you’re not alone, everyone goes through this situation many times in their lives. However, some people handle it by speaking the truth with politeness and kindness, so that their words do not hurt others, while others believe that being brutally honest is better.

So, let’s discuss this very important topic that everyone needs to understand — being honest and being rude are two different things. There’s definitely a fine line between them and it’s necessary to find the right balance when expressing our opinion and thoughts.

When we communicate to someone, the most important thing is that we should be respectful towards them and show some empathy. Being honest is a precious quality, but some people do it in the wrong way. They think that whatever comes to their mind, they can say it. They believe that others shouldn’t get hurt by their words because they are being honest, and that’s enough.

Let me give you an example, once at an event, there was this girl who came to her group of friends, and it seemed like she was confused about how she looked. She asked them how she looked. One of the girls laughed and told her that she looked horrible and her dress look old-fashioned. And when the other girls stared at her, she said very proudly, “I don’t lie, I am an honest person.”

The girl didn’t realise that there is a huge difference between being honest and being rude, her words broke the girl’s heart. The poor girl who asked about her dress would have probably lost her confidence or became insecure about her personality, thinking that she was not good enough. People who use blunt language don’t think twice befor uttering the words that can actually damage someone’s life. It’s so important to remember that honesty is not about being unnecessarily harsh to somebody, it’s all about exprssing your thoughts in a kind and polite way that don’t hurt others’ feeling.

When engaging in conversations, always take a moment to think about the impact of your words on the other person. By considering how your words may affect them, you can avoid saying things that may offend them. This simple act of empathy can truly transform you and help you to become a wonderful person, and construct a healthy and respectful relationship with people around you. It will also build trust between people and deepen the connection with them. It allows open and authentic communication.

We can definitely be both honest and kind at the same time, it’s all about our choice of words, by carefully considering the feeling of others and communicating with them without hurting their feelings. By doing so, we can create healthy relationships.

Published in Dawn, Young World, May 18th, 2024

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