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A Mumbaiite's visit to Islamabad reveals one unfortunate difference between the two South Asian countries. —Reuters
A Mumbaiite's visit to Islamabad reveals one unfortunate difference between the two South Asian countries. —Reuters

Aap India se hai? Are you Indian? That makes you our guest. We can’t take any money from you!”

It was my fourth and last day in Islamabad, and this reaction from a handicrafts shop salesman didn’t surprise me anymore. I’d been getting it from the first day, this outpouring of warmth and generosity from Pakistanis the moment I mentioned India, and it never failed to charm me.

When I flew from Mumbai to Islamabad earlier this month, I was excited about finally getting a glimpse of India’s estranged midnight twin, about meeting the people who are ‘just like us’ but still the perpetual ‘other’.

I was preparing for four days of spotting similarities and differences, but the only striking difference I was able to discern was one that left me with a twinge of shame: all the Pakistanis I encountered love Indians, but most Indians don't return the love.

You must have some tea

I was in Islamabad for an International Women’s Empowerment conference organised by the American Embassy in Pakistan, and my precious single-city visa was valid for just seven days.

The conference was an impressive gathering of nearly 300 women and men from all over Pakistan, who made sure that the few of us representing other South Asian neighbours – India, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, Afghanistan and the Maldives – were treated like mini celebrities (lots of selfies were involved, of course).

Also read: 7 things that make a Pakistani feel at home in India

But the two of us from India – one Mumbaiite and one Kashmiri – began getting special attention much before we met any of the like-minded, well-travelled people at the conference.

First, it came from the otherwise sombre immigration officials at Islamabad’s Benazir Bhutto airport where we landed: a lady officer, while scanning our documents, grinned mischievously at us and said, “India waale toh suspicious hote hai” – Indians are objects of suspicion, right?

We grinned back and proceeded for the airport police verification for foreigners, where the official took a break from an argument with another man to say, “You are from India? You must have some tea!”

One Potato, Two Potato

Outside our hotel, we had time to grab a quick lunch before the conference began, and the only restaurant open on a Friday afternoon in Jinnah Market was OPTP – One Potato Two Potato – serving American fast food. We had been dreaming of kebabs and biryani, but for now, burgers and fries it had to be.

I still hadn’t had time for foreign exchange, so Ashwaq – my fellow Indian traveller – offered to pay for lunch with the Pakistani rupees that she had acquired from an agent in Delhi. But the cashier wouldn’t take them. “These are outdated notes, madam,” he said, shrugging his shoulders. "They are no longer valid."

We pleaded, and after a minute of thumb-twiddling, he double-checked with a friend and came back with the same response: the notes couldn’t be accepted any more.

Tired and hungry, we cursed the dubious Delhi agent – and then it began.

“Delhi? Are you from India?” the cashier said. “Well, it’s okay. I’ll take the old notes. You are our guests.”

He insisted, and the burgers and fries, and the free cheese dips he threw in didn’t taste so American any more.

My first ever cup of tea

This experience repeated itself almost everywhere throughout our four days in Islamabad. Pakistani dildaari towards Indians seemed to be widespread, and manifested itself in discounts, mementoes and many eager conversations about common cultures, Bollywood and of course, cricket.

Also read: Crossing borders: Why every Indian should visit Pakistan

On my third night, while gorging on meaty street food at the Melody Food Park, this dildaari moved me to do something I never imagined I would: I drank a whole cup of tea, a beverage I dislike almost as much as coffee (I’m weird, I know).

For journalists, sharing chai with sources is often the smoothest way to break the ice and win trust, but I always wriggle out of the ritual by claiming I’m allergic to tea.

But this tea – a steaming cup of Peshawari kahwa – was a treat from a humble vendour of chappal kebabs, who couldn’t contain his excitement when he found out I was Indian.

“I’ve always wanted to go to India! You have to let us show you our hospitality!” he said, and served us a complimentary kebab along with kahwa.

I’m still no fan of any kind of tea, but that cup definitely left me warm inside.

And Indians?

So, what answer did I have to the one question that so many hospitable Pakistanis in Isloo, as they call Islamabad, asked of me so eagerly, both in and outside the conference?

The question would typically come after heartfelt conversations about India, Pakistan, Kashmir and the politics that separates us:

“We really love Indians – after all, we’re basically the same people. Do Indians feel the same way about us?”

The author attempts to read Iqbal at the Pakistan Monument museum.
The author attempts to read Iqbal at the Pakistan Monument museum.

Often, my response was a bright “We do!”, but was that really true?

Was I speaking for most Indians or just a minority of sickular liberals like me?

Every time I faced that question, my guilt-ridden mind would think of the many "go back to Pakistan" exhortations Indian Muslims have often faced, and the casual "are you meeting terrorists?" jokes that so many of my own friends had cracked when I got my visa for Pakistan.

The next time I cross the border ‒ Karachi and Lahore are on my bucket list ‒ I hope to have a more honest response to that question. I want that response to be, “Of course we love you too!”

This article originally appeared on Scroll.in.


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Aarefa Johari is a Mumbai-based journalist with Scroll.in, an online news publication. She writes on gender, communities, culture and urban planning.

She tweets @AarefaJohari

The views expressed by this writer and commenters below do not necessarily reflect the views and policies of the Dawn Media Group.


Comments (278) Closed



Sanjay Guha Mar 30, 2015 05:35pm

I don't think Indians would feel any different about Pakistanis. I lot of people from Pakistan who participate in this forum are a lot like us. Those of us who follow cricketers admire good cricketers from Pakistan. We have a shared culture and heritage.

Sanjoy Sankar Guha Mar 30, 2015 05:48pm
            Very very touching, and perhaps also true - at least to some extent. I am going to make a stupid generalisation - Indians are more ambitious than they are affectionate, and it is not only with Pakistanis !! it is also with their fellow Indians ! I also think that Pakistanis will score higher on the emotional quotient than the Indians - that's how Indians are and that's how Pakistanis are. This is based upon my observations of how Indian TV anchors handle Pak guests. All in all I get the feeling that the enlightened Pakistani is a big hearted, kind, simple , extremely hospitable person possessed of considerable emotional and intellectual refinement. 
Rajeev Menon Mar 30, 2015 05:58pm
            Well, I can say most of us Indians, have no ill will towards our Pakistani friends. We wish them well. We want their country to progress in all spheres of life. As for love of Pakistanis towards us is concerned, i disagree to an extent with the author. Not all Pakistanis love us as can be found out from some of the very vitriolic and offensive comments. Similarly, some of us think of Pakistanis as terrorists and their apologists and conspirators which is certainly not the case. They are also victims of terrorism. More liberal VISA policy, student exchange, comprehensive economic relations and sustained dialogue to resolve all issues can certainly bring the two countries together.              
Pady Mar 31, 2015 01:27pm

Who says Indians hate Pakistanis...??? Ask Aatif Aslam, Fawad khan, Adnan Sami, Wasim Akram, Ali Jafar and many more..... Common people from both side love each other.

Bad Shah Khan Mar 31, 2015 01:28pm

For most Indians, Pakistan is a neighbor we just have to live with, while there have been quite a few incidents for a lot of Indians Mumbai was a watershed moment which really made people turn away from even 'people to people contact'. Also in India there is so much diversity that people just accept it and move on, in one day you could be on the train with people from 10 states who look similar but eat different food and speak a different language

Red Mar 31, 2015 01:29pm

Bombay is different thanks to the Shiv Sena, in north India Pakistani's get the same response, last world cup for the Pakistan India semi final in Mohali many Pakistani fans stayed in homestays due to shortage of rooms and they had a similar experience to the author of this article.

Qasir Mar 31, 2015 01:32pm

both side people have same feeling for each other

Aamchi Mumbai Mar 31, 2015 01:32pm

No. Most of us don't feel the same way for Pakistan. I give this feedback to you as a Mumbai kar. And yes because I do not agree with you does not make me non secular & non liberal. Good to see your views but don't enforce it on other Indians. Its your view & we respect that but just because we seem to disagree with you does not make us any lesser. You do not reflect the whole of India dear.

Striver Mar 31, 2015 01:34pm
            A very honest article. Thank you for that. 

The hype created against Pakistanis in India is poisoning the mind of the generation of Indians. If we are looking for peace in the region that is not the way to go about achieving it.

Indian media, and the government agencies bear responsibility for perpetuating this animosity.

I think this is also an honest assessment.

Guru jee Mar 31, 2015 01:34pm

The "go back to Pakistan" exhortations Indian Muslims often face is despicable. Pakistani Hindus also are treated with suspicion in Pakistan. These are unfortunate facts.

nitin Mar 31, 2015 01:36pm

"Was I speaking for most Indians or just a minority of secular liberals like me?" No you are not speaking on anyone's behalf not even the the liberals's. Speak for yourself. Share your experience but do not try to imply unfounded and imaginative conclusions. People to people contact between indians and pakistanis is 9/10 times harmonious and one of its kind, be it anywhere in the world. Though we also love to take on each other some times on certain topics. :)

Sid- The Warrior Mar 31, 2015 01:39pm

I could not understand why Author is bit bias. She must remember that its Indias hospitality & love towards neghbours and others which is reciprocated. When Pakistanis like/love Indian, its the response/reaction of warmth & love they get from Indians. isnt it best exapble that from legendary ghazal singers to new age actors of Pakistan to cricketers of Pakistan find respect & Love in India. Isint that enough reason that they always want to travell to India. If author is pleased with affection/respect and hospitality of Pakistanis, definitely she will receprocate so will other Indians & Pakistanis will do. I dont see any point of India responding less.

abraKadabra Mar 31, 2015 01:42pm

Your thoughts about Indians not loving Pakistanis is not generic. I have met with many Pakistanis abroad and the warmth I received was away more than I have felt meeting fellow Indians....What I understand, the moment a Pakistani and Indian meet, they start to see a lot and lot of similarity. There is compassion and sympathy about things happening back in the borders..

Sajjad Mar 31, 2015 01:44pm

Aarefa, you are always welcome to Pakistan. I understand that airport immigration experience might be scary sometimes. However, once you you are in, I am pretty much confident in saying this that you will be welcomed everywhere. Visit karachi and hyderabad next time and be our guests.

Cheers, Sajjad

Gaurav Arya Mar 31, 2015 01:45pm

I disagree. Many Pakistanis have told me that the best time they had was in India. Indians love Pakistanis too. The problem is that India is HUGE. An Indian Punjabi, a Sindhi, a Bihari or a UP wallah can relate to Pakistanis because the language, food, music, culture etc is the same. But Indians also hail from Nagaland, Tamil Nadu, Kerela etc…and they can't even relate to North Indians, let alone Pakistanis.

I have seen Pakistanis with Indians in New Delhi having an absolute blast together. Its not true that we don't love Pakistanis. We may have issues with their government but as for the common Pakistani, I will welcome them with open arms. They are our brothers and sisters. India is their home. We are not behind Pakistanis in "Mehmaan nawazi"

A. A. Mar 31, 2015 01:47pm

We have our differences, highlighted even more by our mutual ignorance of each other. I would not go as far as using the word "love" to describe the relationship from either end. What the blogger experienced was most likely the usual hospitality which I am sure we Pakistanis will get on the streets of Delhi as well.

Manish Mar 31, 2015 01:47pm

Well, thing is, on backstage Pakistanis might also be despising Indian and Indian do that too. But when these two different animals meet, sentiments and feeling is entirely different. Being in pakistan, author felt that and any pakistani coming to india will also share same sentiments. But again, when we are within our brethren we both curse each other. That is the fact. Example, how LK Advani gotten into so in love with pak when he visited there.

A Mar 31, 2015 01:49pm

Glad you had a good time in Pakistan, Aarefa!

mazhar Mar 31, 2015 01:53pm

Thank you for sharing your experience with all of us. I am glad you felt the warmth of few Pakistani's while you were there . We should all try not to generalise group of people and learn to accept that there are good and bad in all countries and societies. We should appreciate the good and discourage the bad ones. There is a lot we can learn from each other. Stay safe and blessed.

Vyom Mar 31, 2015 01:54pm

Extremists are everywhere!! there are people in Pakistan too who dont like Indians and like wise here in India who hate Pakistanis. But we must understand middle class family of both the countries are the future of consolidating relationship btw Ind & Pak, as they emphasizes more on education. And when education comes into place, people generally leaves radicalism, extremists thoughts behind and work for brighter future..some people hate each other, ans some really love each other..

Jay Patel Mar 31, 2015 02:00pm

We love common Pakistani but at the same time against those Pakistanis who are blood thursty. Who kill millions of innocent minorities and who teach hate Hindu curriculum in studies.

For Pakistan, Gazanabi, Ghori are heroes who killed millions of Indians, attacked and destroyed India's custom and religion symbols. By the way at that time, even you Pakistanis were Indians. so I don't see any reason to worship them as your rolemodels.

On the other side, our heroes are Gandhi, Gautam Buddh, Ashok, Aryabhat, Bhagat Sing.

So yes, both countries are on the verge of extrem differences.

Nisar Mar 31, 2015 02:02pm

Our backgrounds are the same, so no point in fighting, but our futures are also different, not in a bad way, but in a realistic way, they just need to work together.

arjun Mar 31, 2015 02:07pm

yes.....indian love pakistani.....we like yours music,food,dramas.....

Gourishankar Mar 31, 2015 02:07pm

We have no problems with the people of Pakistan :)

someone Mar 31, 2015 02:07pm

I bag to differ Aarefa, I'm an Indian and I do feel same for our Pakistani friends. There are people on both sides of the border who are liberal and love each other and also the people who spread hatred..

Anwar Mar 31, 2015 02:07pm
            @@AarefaJohari not only good but great analysis. Kudos. Friendship is limited to few areas and remain between privileged people only.              
Zeeshan Shamsi Mar 31, 2015 02:08pm

Aarefa, you are welcome as our guest anytime. We are a very hospitable nation, and the sentiment you felt and noticed is extended to all guests. Wish more of your fellow citizens can come and enjoy our hospitality.

Dr Mohsin Kazmi Mar 31, 2015 02:10pm

Dear Indians Whenever you ask this question to yourselves you would always take some time to answer it. No I'm not mentioning hesitation and reluctance. Not only to Indians we are generous to all foreigners, read travelogues of other guests.

Sare Jahan Se Achchha Mar 31, 2015 02:18pm

Whilst I do accept Pakistani's are great with hospitality towards Indians... I think It's quite unfair to claim or even question whether Indians can reciprocate the same way. I'd suggest writer to simply rewind back to 2011 Cricket World Cup Semi-final between India & Pakistan in Mohali... The government of Chandigarh asked its residents to open any vacant rooms for the Pakistani visitors to stay as their guest & Indians opened up their abode with arms wide open... on many occasions local sweet vendors & restaurant owners were offering freebies to the Pakistani tourists. With the political divide from past 68 years & people to people contact being almost negligible there is a sense of curiosity between the people of both the countries which is exactly what the writer experiences on her visit... However, when you visit Karachi & Lahore next time I'd suggest you respond with an answer “Of course we love you too!”. It is my long desire to visit this estranged twin of India, maybe one day!

N.Sid Mar 31, 2015 02:19pm

If Pakistanis seems to love Indians what does it shows/entails, they harbor no hatred for them and they don't suffer from this phobia. It also shows they, the common people, are less bigoted, more open minded, unbiased than the immediate neighbors.

'If people can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to human heart than the opposite'- Nelson Mandela.

shak Mar 31, 2015 02:19pm

When India toured Pakistan in 2004, thousands of Indians were felt like they were at home.

Though many Indians would do the same, I experienced that majority would not.

You can not beat Pakistani's hospitality anyways

Sudhanshu Swami Mar 31, 2015 02:26pm

@Pady add shoaib malik and shoaib akhtar

Gurdaspur to Islamabad Mar 31, 2015 02:26pm

My reply is more than Yes. About two years back I submitted my request in Dawn block requesting some Indian to trace out my forefather's village in Indian Punjab and next day I got a reply from a Sardar Jee from USA (a resident of Amartsar) offering his services free of cost. I got information from my father (who served PU) about his village in Indian Punjab and passed on to him. Since Sardar Jee was in USA he asked his sister to trace out our village in Gurdaspur and also visit there. It was my great surprise that she and her family traced out not only our village but also our house in Gurdaspur. After few month respected Sardar jee came to India and he organized a function in our village and school where my father studied up to class 5th and donated almirahs to school in the honour of my father from his own pocket. Photos of function can be seen at https://plus.google.com/photos/107975986087203968010/albums/5853408620137048273

Geographically we are divided but not from the heart.

Anwar Mar 31, 2015 02:27pm

@AarefaJohari very true !

citizen Mar 31, 2015 02:27pm

Happy to see author's good reception in Pakisthan and great about hospitality. But am not sure if everybody got same treatment. One of my friend's brother who is a hindu, male had a tough time (police formalities, enquiry etc) when he visited Lahore to meet a terminally sick aunty. Perhaps visiting as a government guest and as a private individual might make a difference..

Devendra Mar 31, 2015 02:28pm
            @Red Wrong. Do Not forget Fawad Khan, Adnan Sami, Ali Jafar have made it to Bollywood.              
DJ Mar 31, 2015 02:28pm
            I am from Indian punjab and I have a great attraction, curiosity  towards Pakistan and Pakistani people. In fact we share the same language, culture and food. So i love Pakistan and the dildari that is mentioned is a very Punjabi nature than just pakistani .Of course the writer from mumbai never had the opportunity to experience dildari in the maximum city. Do Indians love pakistani people - Answer is Big YES!
N.Sid Mar 31, 2015 02:30pm

Psychiatrists had mentioned hatred is a disease, its good that Pakistanis are nor suffering from this deadly disease. Love is all empowering and encompassing.

atif Mar 31, 2015 02:31pm

one can't deny feelings of animosity; even amongst masses, exist on both side of border. likewise, good ppl also exist on both sides of border too.

lets hope good ppl increase and bad ppl r overwhelmed. only that way we can prosper as good neighbours

Gurdaspur to Islamabad Mar 31, 2015 02:32pm

This is in continuation of my earlier mail. Sardar Jee further informed that when he reached our village in Gurdaspur people were very jubilant and expecting arrival of native of this village from Pakistan. Sardar Jee informed that person who is presently residing in our house has also offered half of his house to my father. School administration given shield and Kashmiri shawl which Sarfdar jee sent to my father to Lahore via USA. Me, my father and whole family is very thankful to Sardar Jee from Amartsar and his family.

Sarah Rehan Mar 31, 2015 02:38pm

Very touching article. Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts.

Sanjoy Sankar Guha Mar 31, 2015 02:40pm

Very very touching.Should be printed and distributed amongst the people of India. I would prefer to think that by and large Indians reciprocate the Pakistani sentiment. But it may appear (and I hope I am wrong) that Indians are a little less demonstrative with their affections and less generous with their hospitality, but then again the very multiplicity of India would mean that there are so many individual differences. I think it would be safe to say that Indians would respond in full measure if they KNOW that overtures are authentic. How very soul-stirring to hear about a simple tea vendor who offers his hospitality with kebabs and tea, gratis! The very kindness of a man whose heart is big enough to give for an impersonal love - Indians are we ready yet??

Dilip Mar 31, 2015 02:42pm

I like pakistan say what you may. Their old movies, Food, culture etc. They are very warm by nature. But I hate their politicians.

Adnan Mar 31, 2015 02:45pm

@Pady who is Ali Jafar?? Oh, you men Ali Zafat

Abdul Majeed Sheikh Mar 31, 2015 02:49pm

I am 66 years of age visited India 8 times (5 were business trips), my ancestors hail from Indian Gujarat. (Rajpipla). I agree with most of the comments; we Pakistanis love Indian and the Indians love Pakistanis. In Foreign lands we are best friends. The fact is that the countries who fought World Wars are allies, (Europe) but after 68 years of our independence our "visionary leaders" have not learned to live together as "Good neighbors" reason! Army, Kashmir and now Terrorism.

Our younger generations have to resolve this and are required to be more pragmatic and find out solutions. More bold initiatives are required

sunny shyam Mar 31, 2015 02:55pm

not a secular liberal though, i too love pakistanis given to know their hospitality personally from gulf countries... its the ruling class who adapts the colonial idea of "divide & rule"for their benefits.

Sanjoy Sankar Guha Mar 31, 2015 02:55pm

@Guru jee Yes, it is completely despicable. These words roll off very readily from the tongues of short-sighted, mean communal ideologues who have no respect for the feelings of others, and include TV anchors. It pains me no end when I hear such comments. But hatred comes when the heart is disturbed - when peace prevails love will flow.

Ayaz Munir Mar 31, 2015 02:56pm

@Guru jee Respected Sir,

No body in Pakistan says "Go back to india" to hindus , we have few hindu majority distrcits in Pakistan and many areas have a big hindu population and they are more successful than Muslims.

Kindly get your facts right Sir.

Sanjoy Sankar Guha Mar 31, 2015 02:59pm

@mazhar Very well and correctly spoken.

Kabir Mar 31, 2015 02:59pm

Obviously Indians feel the same!!

All of cricketers and film celebrities love to spend all the time there. Wasim Akram and Imran Khan are treated as Gods

Hindu Khush Mar 31, 2015 03:01pm

Most of the Indians cannot find out if the other person is a Pakistani or not. First they look the same, and second their names sound like names of Indian muslims. A couple of times I met Pakistanis in India in conferences, I was cordial. But we tend to probe about their country, how it is doing, its economy, do they feel safe there, etc. This really put them off. I have not seen any people being so generous towards Pakistanis, barring a couple of shopkeepers in Hyderabad's Laad bazar, who refused to take money from Pakistanis. Up North there is some sort of feeling for Pakistan either animosity or goodwill, but down south I found that people are not at all bothered, barring places like Hyderabad with sizable muslim population. For them it is just another country, just other set of tourists who come visiting.

ss Mar 31, 2015 03:02pm

I wish this warmth could translate into foreign policy strategy of Pakistan govt./army. In India Pakistan is more known for incidents like Parliament & Mumbai attack. The reason why Indians do not exude similar warmth is that people know that Lakhvi still operates his terror network while officially being detained, recently BBC reported that Lakhvi operates a defacto office with a mobile phone, when Kayani was confronted on this issue he point blank refused to withdraw such facilities. Indians would like Pakistanis to love their own fellow Pakistani as well who do not subscribe to similar faith such as Ahmedis. Christians hindus and sikhs. A governor was shot at in Pakistan and no maulvi was willing to perform his last rites, on the other hand his killer was showered with rose petals in the court room from none other than those who championed democratic movement in 2007. An ex judge of Lahore high court is defending a killer!!

sauron Mar 31, 2015 03:02pm

Well there are similarities and lasting friendships between the subcontinental neighbours. But the 'secular liberal' overlooks a lot of things. Sure people prefer to be friendly and cherish the similarities , but I Pakistan , the deep state has officially tried hard to build an anti india narrative ,(e.g through the infamous school textbooks ). That the author found the people to be warm and welcoming DESPITE all this is a credit to them .

In India however, most of the narrative about terrorism rightly paints Pakistan as the source of it(home grown groups are comparatively recent). While both countries are victims of terrorism , India is a victim of Pakistan's state sponsored terrorism while Pakistan is a victim of groups sponsored in past(even in the present ) by the Pakistani deep state. This can explain to some extent , the lack of love the author feels that Indians have towards Pakistan.

NIRAJCHAWHAN Mar 31, 2015 03:02pm

If we would be hating pakistanis, why would we listening their musicians, watching dramas. If anywhen I could get a chance to intract with a Pakistani in india, I'll definitely loved to be with him, will show and tell whatever we have good in India. Can't say of other but I as an Indian....love Pakistani people.

I am at my young age and live in central India, but I have feeling of betrayal been associated with a nation Pakistan. Don't know how it came.

N.S Mar 31, 2015 03:03pm

@AAREFA JOHARI, Kindly come up with one or two more articles about your recent trip to Islamabad...this is making us more curious to know how an Indian thing about Pakistanis, and the country. And also for people across the border. The curiousness is mutual on both sides.

ramanan Mar 31, 2015 03:09pm

Pakistanis ought to know that India is not just North India. As a south indian who had lived in Chandigarh, I have been put off by Punjabi Hospitality' Yes I mean it. The culture across india varies widely. In south india, Hospitality is not always equated with good intentions! Most people are in fact wary when they see overt guestures of hospitality.

Besides, there is either indifference or dislike for Pakistan and also a tinge of worry that our North Indian citizens do not go overboard when it comes to Paksitan.

Most of us do not care much for any relationship with Pakistan but are mindful of the fact that some our own countrymen in the North do desire genuine friendship with Paksitan.

Raj Mar 31, 2015 03:09pm

I am dying to test Lahore Biryani but where is the VISA?How do we know each other?

Taimoor Khan Mar 31, 2015 03:12pm

Its a part of Pakistani culture to look after guests regardless where they are from, even from a mortal enemy. This doesn't mean that we are oblivious about the security/terrorism concern that emanates from certain nations. Our behavior should be taken in this context.

Vishnu Shankar Mar 31, 2015 03:17pm

I cannot speak on behalf of all Indians but I can certainly tell you that one of the items in my bucket list is visiting Pakistan and enjoy the hospitality and enjoy some good Pak dishes and I know a lot of my friends feel the same way as well. After all we are brothers

Yogender lodhi Mar 31, 2015 03:19pm

It is possible that 80% Pakistani are good but remaining 20% are bad for India as they have been brainwashed against us and always involve in activities that are harmful to us. So we should not trust Pakistan.

Rohit Mar 31, 2015 03:19pm

Sry People...whenever Pakistan is mentioned, the first things that come to my mind are Mumbai aTtacks, Kargil, atrocities and genocide of Bangladeshis in 1971, attack on Indian Parliament (the list is endless)... Please do NOT expect welcome treatment in India (allow me to be painfully honest). The best I can offer to a Pakistani in India is indifference and a cautious distance.

M.K Mar 31, 2015 03:22pm

You could have discussed about the Indian hospitality from the parents who had got their kids operated in Bangalore and Chennai hospitals for free before considering the write..

SP Mar 31, 2015 03:25pm

There are different sides to this story. Aarefa Johari has done an overall good job to make the article appealing to Dawn readers. However, let me give links to two other stories (one is from Dawn itself)

http://www.thehindu.com/news/cities/Delhi/walking-in-chandni-chowk-felt-like-walking-through-lahore-streets/article7042076.ece

http://www.dawn.com/news/1135108/7-things-that-make-a-pakistani-feel-at-home-in-india

Indians don't have anything against Pakistanis. At the same time most Indian Muslims also have certain bad vibes about Pakistan. Once Pakistan become a true democratic and liberal nation, there would be marked changes.

Logic speaks Mar 31, 2015 03:26pm

There are reason for Indians "not as hospitable as Pakistanis" if quoted text is true. 1. Most of the blood sheds happened in India ( 93 Mumbai blast, 7/11 Mumbai blast, 26/11 Mumbai, kargil, parliament attack and long list ) has Pakistani connection. So a common Indian sees Pakistan with negative perspective without putting any attention that these were not committed by average Pakistani. Now we Democratic Indians see Government & establishments as representative of people. So if Pakistani establishments ( Army, ISI & politicians) has committed such activities means Pakistan has done it. So if pakistan has done it means Pakistani has done it (though its not correct). 2. Legal troubles - You never sure that the common pakistani in your city is for wht purpose. is it business, pleasure or something fishy. You invited them at your home for "mehman nawazi" and later on they found involved in something then be assured that your remaining life will be spend behind the bars or in court room.

navinder singh Mar 31, 2015 03:28pm

I really cannot say much about other parts of India but when ever people from Pakistan have come to Punjab they are treated the very same way with as much affection as you received in Pakistan. I have seen complete strangers from across the border being hosted by people in their homes. And I firmly believe that this divide is mostly political and when people from both the countries meet there is a lot of warmth between them.

vijay pantnagar Mar 31, 2015 03:31pm

I am obsessed with such articles!!!!!!! Go to any Indian or Pakistani facebook page with a post mentioning India or Pakistan or a you tube video .open comments section and you will get a ground zero report. We will have to accept that we don't love each other ......

k k tiwari Mar 31, 2015 03:34pm

recently i had been to London,Paris , Switzerland & Italy via Abu Dhabi. I came across so many Pakistanis, & by God ! they are so affectionate. I would love to visit Karachi, Lahore & Murrie .If some one host.

AJIT Mar 31, 2015 03:36pm

Thanks Aarefa for this excellent article. I'm an Indian doctor working in UK. while working in Saudi Arabia before, I had many close friends and colleagues who were Pakistanis. We used to gather and celebrate on special occassions in our houses. Even after coming to UK, I've not lost contact with them.

Gaurav Arya's observation that Indians from states other than north India do not relate well to north India or Pakistan is really absurd. I hail from Kerala and I believe, more than language, custom, food or dress, it's a matter of one's sense and wisdom. It's from the great realization that we are Indians and Pakistanis were once part of it.

Awias Ali Mar 31, 2015 03:42pm

I always found positivity on Dawn and i must say Dawn is leading newspaper not in Pakistan but in whole sub-continent. Indian newspapers are unnecessary Anti-Pakistani. They don,t even post the comments of Pakistani readers because of the different views we have instead of the one they normally trying to portray. But here on Dawn i see more Indian than Pakistanis. Indian newspapers should learn journalism from Dawn.

pakistani342 Mar 31, 2015 03:44pm
            Indian are amongst the most hospitable people I know off - it is such a shame that some stupid politicians have poisoned the well.

But you can't keep brothers apart for too long.

setu Mar 31, 2015 03:48pm

@Rohit, I fully agree with you the best treatment can be given is to ignore.

Amer Mustafa Mar 31, 2015 04:02pm

I do not agree with the author, I am a Pakistani based in US and most of my friends are from India. They always open their hearts and homes for us. We have talked about old Pak TV serials, Noor Jehan, Cricket matches.....and the list goes on. I find them simple, non-pretentious and kind hearted.

SP Mar 31, 2015 04:08pm

@SP Here is one more from Dawn

http://www.dawn.com/news/1172450/from-india-to-pakistan-were-not-so-different

Furqan Ahmed Mar 31, 2015 04:09pm

@ author you got a very nice way of writing, hoping to see more articles from you on Dawn. commenting on the article: I got few friends from India and they are amazing people , to me they are just like anyother Pakistani friend, impression i get from them about me is the same.

Iftikhar Anwar Mar 31, 2015 04:14pm

The Indian people who are commenting here , may be they belong to a liberal class and have better opinion about Pakistanies but as far as my experience is concerned they do not provide us same respect as we do.

Fact Mar 31, 2015 04:22pm

History is the answer for this......its in Pakistan hand to make her self look approachable and friendly......which has not been the case for may years now....every country is responsible for its own image........Argument that common people has nothing to do with the state of the country ...then who does ?? no citizen can shy away from the blame.....its a collective blame and effort to make what you want your country to be.

mantharia Mar 31, 2015 04:26pm

please come to Karachi as well next time .

Meera Vigraham Mar 31, 2015 04:29pm

love Junoon, love Nusrat, like many of the Pak cricketers, actors and actresses. And that's all the Pakistani's i know :)

ROHIT PANDEY Mar 31, 2015 04:32pm

I have read this many a time before-the outpouring of love and affection for Indians!:)

Here in Canada,most Pakistanis is meet are just neutral- I don't perceive a hostility or friendliness,some are very curious and ask a lot of questions about India,and some are down downright hostile.

Zaheer Tanoli Mar 31, 2015 04:36pm

@Dilip You May be right..Corrupt Politicians are in every community..

Zaheer Tanoli Mar 31, 2015 04:36pm

@arjun Thanks Dear..We also love

Zaheer Tanoli Mar 31, 2015 04:38pm

@DJ Thanks For Having respect for pakistanis:)

ROHIT PANDEY Mar 31, 2015 04:38pm

I remember the Commonwealth Games of 2010.

The crowd in New Delhi gave a rousing welcome to the Pakistani contingent when it marched past at the inauguration...the Pakistani media blackened out the inaugural ceremony.

Aadami Mar 31, 2015 04:47pm

If you take the Politicians and military out of equation, we are all equal. Of course, we love each other. Only in the mind of Hawks, we are enemy.

Awais Ali Mar 31, 2015 04:52pm

Author reminded me my University life in Islamabad which was mostly spent in places like Jinnah supper, and Melody food street instead of studding in University. haha

deep Mar 31, 2015 04:54pm

While the individual pakistani can be emotional - jazbati is the word - the average indian is not - we don't have the same obsession (notwithstanding the trolls including myself) vis-a-vis pakistan. So a pakistani in india would be treated just as an average Indian would - which is not a bad thing

Ali Jawad Mar 31, 2015 04:54pm

If you were overwhelmed by the response you got in Islamabad, wait till you see Lahore :)

Anubhav Mar 31, 2015 04:55pm

I beg to differ with author. More especially as a Mumbaikar, her observations seem biased. Inspite of our "beloved" right wing parties, we do have same love & wish to reciprocate the same to our Pakistani brethren.

Its high time that visa regulations are eased for Indians too, irrespective of religion. I am sure Indian tourists will flock Pakistani tourist circuits in droves.

Tranquil Mar 31, 2015 04:59pm

I am sure Indians wont take the wish of visiting india by Paksitani and wont comment negative on such wonderful article. Its only about Visiting India like you guys nothing to do with other issues. hope sensible will get it.

bkt Mar 31, 2015 05:01pm

@Sid- The Warrior :> I disagree with you. The response we get in India is not good. It seems to me that the govt or social bodies have spread a lot of unnecessary hatred. I guess in Pakistan we distrust the govt while in India you trust them too much. The best way to create love between states is to remove borders and let trust and endearment grow. We have much in common and are closer than our leaders would like.

Krishna Mar 31, 2015 05:04pm

@Awias Ali : that was funny

DJ Mar 31, 2015 05:11pm

@Iftikhar Anwar, you have very wrong opinion about India and Indian

karachi Wally Mar 31, 2015 05:21pm

For last 12 years I have lived in Toronto and Dubai among lots and lots of Indians and Pakistanis. Generally, Pakistanis have much greater knowledge about India, their customs, their country, geography, history media, etc. Whereas Indian do not have much knowledge of Pakistanis so there are lots of stereo types and generalizations about Pakistanis. But after some time when the interact directly they realize that Pakistanis are not as bad as they have been told by their media.

karachi Wally Mar 31, 2015 05:22pm

To some extent what you are saying is correct, but I would generally blame it on the Indian media and Indian media policy.

Tejaswi Mar 31, 2015 05:23pm

Offcourse we love them yaar.. ladai wadai to hoti rahegi but ye bhi pyaar wali ladai hai. When some terrorists killed kids in peshawar, I was in my office. Everybody was glued to TV sets. They were so sad if something happened to our own country. Everybody was sad. That day I felt how much deeper this bond is. This love needs to come on surface and remain there always. In our hearts we can never imagine anything bad to pakistan. We will alway wish them luck and prosperity.

Dipak Singh Mar 31, 2015 05:24pm

@Gurdaspur to Islamabad
Its Great... unbelievable.

Just saying Mar 31, 2015 05:26pm

For all those who disagree with the author, please consider this:

How many restaurant owners in Mumbai (or any other part of India) would refuse to take money from Pakistani visitors?

How many petrol stations in rural Indiawill refuse to accept money as soon as they found out the customer was a Pakistani visitor?

If you are honest, the answer will be "not many"

Both these things happened when my parents visited Sindh to visit their old town, a few years ago.

So please don't trash what she is saying. It is true.

Dr BN Anand Mar 31, 2015 05:28pm

@Bad Shah Khan And , sir, also dress differently

mviewer Mar 31, 2015 05:39pm

In abroad, Pakistanis and Indians live together like a family. Can't we do at home ???

HASAN Mar 31, 2015 05:55pm

Having same experience, when i came abroad 'Finland' we Pakistanis treat indians and Pakistani equally but for Indians we are different they are never so good with us, some one can easily use the word of hate about their treatment nd behaviour

Threatning Mar 31, 2015 06:02pm

Only a common man can tell us the feelings they have from across the borders visits. A celebrity will always mix things up to keep the business incentives in mind and hence they will be a bit political as well.

Euro Mar 31, 2015 06:06pm

judging by all the anti-Pakistani comments on Dawn by Indians I would say no. So much hate and Islamophobia can not be seen from any other people, including Americans.

Human Mar 31, 2015 06:11pm

@Sid- The Warrior pls try looking around u guys don't let out cricketers play IPL........u send out hockey players home......there r numerous such examples

Ali Mar 31, 2015 06:12pm

so about 90% of fellow indian comments are negative and attempts to prove this article is baised. I thinks that says something.

Vishal Mar 31, 2015 06:14pm

When a Indian is in Pakistan & When a Pakistani is in India they receive the same respect...However once within themselves they reciprocate the same will. Children of both the countries should turn their queue’s from the Mandir's & Masjid's to Libraries, and you will see Pakistaan & India as Mega-Powers of the world…

Sarfras Sidhu Mar 31, 2015 06:23pm

We are one race. one people and one destiny. India and Pakistan are one. We are family.

Pankaj Sahai Mar 31, 2015 06:25pm

Punjabis are by nature open-hearted and hospitable. Majority of the population of Pakistan is Punjabi (around 60%) and Punjabi culture dominates. Our part of Punjab (and Delhi) is like that, quick to love and quick to fight, caring aggressive at the same time.

I also had similar good experiences when I visited Pakistan a couple of times, quite sometime back. The custom officer in Islamabad aggressively asked for my passport, was surprised to find that I was Indian and promptly returned the passport without a glance, and then requested me to just walk through the green channel. In another incident, I forgot my hand pouch with my passport and cash at a shop in Rawalpindi. When I realised that my pouch was missing, I traced back the shops that I had visited and after an hour or so, finally found the shop in which I had forgotten it. The shopkeeper promptly returned it and insisted that I check and confirm that nothing was missing.

Weirdity Mar 31, 2015 06:26pm

I find it strange that the american embassy would invite two muslim woman from india for the "International Women’s Empowerment conference ". Are they implying that muslim woman desperately need empowerment relative to their hindu counterparts? Can the author comment on the choice of delegates from india?

raj Mar 31, 2015 06:29pm

India have same feeling for paksitan and pakistani also. but problem occured when pakistan say that " kashmir is ours" and we will take him at last moment of life. if they work for peace then no counrtry in world that can match the combine power of India and pakistan.only one issue raised the tension between two country that is only "kashmir". otherwise all problem between two country can sove within one day.

Logic speaks Mar 31, 2015 06:32pm

@Iftikhar Anwar I somehow agree with you. Please read my comment why it is so.

vicky Mar 31, 2015 06:48pm

indians also feel same...n its natural..besides one in past..v r neighbourer...n its natural to have concern n love for neighbour...hassan nisar ..dr shahid ...n fareeha idrees are listened in india too...fwad khan n mahira,,..sanam syeed ..sanam baloch..bushra ansari are loved in india too..

Sam Mar 31, 2015 06:51pm

@Just saying I agree with you. And the reason is very clear in my mind which is, we see Pakistan as an aggressor and this defines our perception of its people. But my personal actions depend on the individual I am dealing with. I do no generalize.

kaka Mar 31, 2015 06:54pm

I am a Pakistani and working in an Indian Company.

zak Mar 31, 2015 06:58pm

There is no doubt that all common Pakistanis will get similar reception in India. But it is also true that Pakistani Hindus and other minorities who are harassed, oppressed and killed regularly may get special treatment in India by their brethren. To some extent that may have been the case with the author being an Indian Muslim vising Pakistan.

Anwar Ahmad Mar 31, 2015 07:18pm

Common people are common people and mostly hospitable. On a global scale, not just in India/Pakistan.

If only Pakistani establishment could realize that policies of the past are only to our own detriment. Let us look East not towards Middle East. That is where we will find long term success.

shrikant kale Mar 31, 2015 07:30pm
            Very fantastic article and for a different perspective. Gr8. I agree there is tremendous hate for Pakistanis in India and to a large extend. However,I always keep close eye on what is happening in Pakistani society and one day i would always prefer to visit places like Lahor, Karachi, Peshwar and meet the pakistani people. But i dont see this is going to happen. This will remain dream only.              
AJ Mar 31, 2015 07:32pm

I was born and raised in Pakistan, but I have been living in the US now for about 15 years. I have a few Indian friends and most of my Indian friends downright tell me that starting from school in India, Pakistan is portrayed as the big bad wolf and that Pakistani people are not to be trusted. Granted some hate is taught on both sides of the boarder, but I just cant help but feel there is a little bit more on the Indian side.

Pranay Mar 31, 2015 07:39pm

Then what are Adnan Sami, Rahet Fateh Ali, Ali Zafar, Atif Islam, Wasim Akram, Shoib Akhtar etc. etc. doing in India ?? Wrong observation...

Shah (Berlin) Mar 31, 2015 07:41pm

Sorry girl but I hope tht you are able to say the same. I have had very bad experience once I was in India. I traveled there as an Engineer expert from Germany holding a Pakistani passport. From Immigration till my return flight, trust me it was not easy...... I blame your media for it ...it is very outspoken harsh and out of facts which instigate hatred in Indians...on the other hand Pakistani media seldom talks about India until some thing really happens......Regards

Buzdar Baloch Mar 31, 2015 07:55pm

I've been a soldier at Pakistan's army. And trust me the country that I love the most after Pakistan is India. Soldiery is just a profession

DR. SHAZIA Mar 31, 2015 07:56pm

Having colleagues who travel to India for medical conferences rarely encounter such "large-hearted"hospitality when visiting there. In fact, they are disappointed that most Indians are quite stingy, and even when hosting guests in restaurants make the guest pay for their own meal which would never be acceptable in Pakistan! I guess that's why the term "banya" is common when referring to such ungracious Indians.

Sense Mar 31, 2015 07:57pm

We all have our prejudices ,but we are good people and usually treat people with respect

Zak Mar 31, 2015 07:58pm

@Sanjay Guha we have shared two great empires that ruled many different nations. The Mughal and British empires, who left a refined legacy. Other than that nothing else. If India holds UN plebiscite in Kashmir, then there will be peace. That's all.

Uncle_Sam_Oosa Mar 31, 2015 08:14pm

Watch PK and you'll see that not ALL Indians dislike Pakistanis. We share a common heritage and history. Ever since I came to Canada the notion of Us and Them has quickly evaporated! Its the politics that separates us, unfortunately!

nj01 Mar 31, 2015 08:14pm

I have many Pakistani friends and very close to each other. Just like a family. We don't see any difference. We celebrate festivals together. Only one thing we know that, they are very religious and don't don't try to touch that part. Thats all. We are one!!

nj01 Mar 31, 2015 08:21pm

Author is projecting worng impression here. We Indians love Pakistani because we feel bhai-bhai. Since childhood, I grew up with this brotherhood mentality. No ill sick. Watched how indian societies , media and etc. invited pakistani musicians, artists, writers and many more..gave opportunities to them. Common people in India felt very close to them and provided great support and encouragement. We have comedy shows with Pakistani artists and comedians. Its a perception of author how she thinks about herself and projecting her weaknesses to others.

pallavi Mar 31, 2015 08:35pm

i think v all (indians & pakistanis) are very imotional ppl......anyways we too love pakistan.....no doubt

Santosh Menon Mar 31, 2015 08:35pm

@AJIT : Ajit, what Gurav Arya told is partially correct!. Among South Indians, keralites can very well correlate with Pakistanis mainly due to Middle East!. Among Indians, Keralites are there in large numbers in almost every gulf countries & so do the Pakistanis. They rub shoulder to shoulder be it corporate jobs, construction or restaurant business! PS: Nick name for malayalees in Tamil Nadu is "Dubai"!

Aiza Mar 31, 2015 08:39pm

@Gurdaspur to Islamabad How heart warming! I am deeply touched to hear this story, generous people like Sardar ji generates love and hope! No doubt, there are plenty of such lovely people on both side of the border!

someone_else Mar 31, 2015 08:47pm

"Pakistanis loving Indians" is a rare breed. Should be cherished.

Manish Desai Mar 31, 2015 08:50pm

Blood is thicker than water. As a beneficiary of great love from Pakistanis throughout my life in the west, I must attest that there is something deeper about our bond than passing curiosity.

Indian Mar 31, 2015 08:56pm

I humbly disagree with the author ...rest I am not writing bcoz it wouldn't be published

Pal Sharma Mar 31, 2015 09:01pm

I totally agree with Sanjoy Sankar Guha. While studying at Univ of Zurich, I met Saeed Anwar in 1981 and we are great friends since then. I just spoke him yesterday and it felt like we went back in time. This person taught me how to be a caring person, emotional and have a selfless attitude toward others. I always feet great about hearing good things coming out of Pakistan. Good Luck!

mayank Mar 31, 2015 09:03pm

@Buzdar Baloch hats off to you dude..from an Indian.

Sunil Dhiman Mar 31, 2015 09:07pm

common people of India & common people of Pakistan love/ see to each other

S Srinivasaraghavan Mar 31, 2015 09:17pm

I heard & read a lot about Pakistani hospitality. Always got positive reporting. My one wish is to go to Pakistan, take dip in Sindh river, perform prayer by standing in the Sindh river. Go to some temples (Katasraj) , see Lahore & come back. It may happen one day... It is a simple wish. - S.Srinivasaraghavan Mysore India

Param Mar 31, 2015 09:23pm

I work in US, am Indian have Pakistani neighbors, care for them break bread with them. I do not see any problem. In most cases you won't know the difference between Indian/Pakistani, they are called desi's. I am born Hindu and belive in one god. I read Dawn because I think the concept of paid news is less prevalent in Pakistan and I respect that. I just don't understand how the author reached these conclusions, it is ver easy to generalise.

Ali Mar 31, 2015 09:50pm

@Sanjoy Sankar Guha yes we are just like that. If our emotions stopped getting in the way there are no limits to pak

Vidhan Mar 31, 2015 09:53pm

There are so many people coming to india for medical treatments specially in banglore or other south Indian cities. And they have received the same warmth and love. People have gone a length to help the Pakistani citizen coming for medical treatments.

Ali Mar 31, 2015 09:58pm

Despise only those who oppress people, regardless who they are. And, all Indians & Pakistani should join together to stand up against oppression of human being, Muslim or Non Muslim, support those who stand up for their rights, support those who are sincerely striving for the noble cause. It is not about religion, it is not about the country, it is about the oppression, violation of human rights, it is about corruption, it is about those who kill innocent human beings & those who dare to stand up for their rights

guest Mar 31, 2015 09:59pm

I suspect that a majority of the people on both sides of the border like each other, or at the very least, have no animosity towards each other. They just want to live their lives and have opportunities to grow and prosper. Unfortunately, they also are the silent majority. The vocal minority that are always suspicious are the ones who get heard all the time. It is precisely for that reason that articles like this are so important!

Third Party Mar 31, 2015 09:59pm

Pakistan as a state ( not the people of Pakistan) , Government of Pakistan has lot to do to win Indian confidence. People of Pakistan have already won the hearts of Indians. but it is in the court of Government of Pakistan. Specially the politicians. On the contrary , Indian Government is doing a lot .

putin Mar 31, 2015 10:07pm

time for the author to move to pak and then know what the people really are.it is the long term relationship that tells the real story where people of india would score big in their tolerance and good nature

Hosur Mar 31, 2015 10:08pm

@Sajjad Pakistanis are not aliens to be treated differently.Here in Bangalore many Pakistanis come for their medical treatment and they are treated with great courtesy and often the high costs of treatment either waived or at least reduced.They are as welcome as we would be and not very different on people to people contacts.Sixty years is not a long time and it is just one generation away and hopefully the younger generation with no baggage of history will have a more positive and friendly relationship.

Moody Blue Mar 31, 2015 10:10pm

It is difficult to generalize from anecdotal evidence about the feelings of an entire nation. One hopes that intelligent, educated and cosmopolitan people will behave in the same way in either country, or for that matter anywhere in the modern world. Time for bygones to be bygones, but will politics and habitual obsessions allow?

awais ahmad Mar 31, 2015 10:11pm

Sourav ganguly said the same when he visited Peshawar with Indian team, my home. But when my university friends visited Delhi for an event. They were treated differently by few.

And also i work in US now, and although i have Indian friends from my engineering school and work. Their attitude is a lot different(i.e good) then other Indians who act strange when they find out i am from Pakistan.

kuppai Mar 31, 2015 10:33pm

For those of us from the south of India, getting ahead financially matters a lot more than some imaginary bond with the people of Pakistan. Perhaps it matters to those in Punjab or others who share a common bond but to the majority of Indians Pakistan is a foreign country and will remain so. This does not imply any hostility. It simply means that there are no rose colored glasses or imagined friendship.

Moody Blue Mar 31, 2015 10:34pm

As an immigrant from India, I can also say that some Indians (not everyone) appear to carry a big chip on their shoulders. (Maybe it is just a defensive ploy.) An observation made to me by a fellow [Indian] immigrant friend's very urbane physician-academician parents who've live and travel all over the world. I, too, have observed this, and some of the comments on Dawn blogs reflect that kind of off-putting attitude.

nikhil Mar 31, 2015 10:41pm

Hospitality is our culture (India and Pakistan)..We might not love without knowing someone but surely there is a bond ..when you meet someone nice from across the border you feel it from within that we are one...however this bond seems to be tested by radicals on both sides..for some reason I believe the leaders or representatives from both countries are the ones who do this to distract us from their inefficiencies and corruption

Moody Blue Mar 31, 2015 10:42pm

@Adnan Who is Ali Zafat? Oh, you mean Ali Zafar. :-)

ZackKhan Mar 31, 2015 10:42pm

@Aiza Sardar jees are always loving...no matter where you are. Living in USA for 30 years i met lots of Sardars and I love them, they are awesome.

ZackKhan Mar 31, 2015 10:45pm

@ss so basically we are little messed ...no matter hindu or muslim!

Joe Mar 31, 2015 10:52pm

I think indian and pakistani government is nuturing this hatred.people are the same mostly in india and pakistan. But abroad in dubai and sharjah i cant wait to play a game of snooker or pool with my pakistani freinds every eveining.

Joe Mar 31, 2015 10:55pm

@Abdul Majeed Sheikh so true

Joe Mar 31, 2015 10:56pm

@Bad Shah Khan u r right

Moody Blue Mar 31, 2015 10:57pm

@Ayaz Munir I am only speculating here. The two statements - ugly and nasty as they are - have a subtle difference, colored by political (not genealogical) history. While only Pakistan was created out of India for "Indian Muslims", it was not true for what remained as India. Part of that has to do with the visionary and secular leadership of Mohandas Gandhi and Jawaharlal Nehru. (One wonders what would have happened if Sardar Patel would have been the first prime minister of India? Probably nothing different.)

Satyameva Jayate Mar 31, 2015 11:22pm

To learn what Pakistanis this of India and what Indians think of Pakistan, please search the internet for the following: 'Pew Chapter 4: How Asians View Each Other'.

A shah Mar 31, 2015 11:32pm

Indians feel if you can add something to society through talent skill or success then you are equal and they accept you with open arms

Mishra Mar 31, 2015 11:40pm

Both countries and cultures are same as it was before partition. A common man on both side wants to relate and have friendship but govt. and terrorists are in our way. In west, I see Indiand and Pakistanis go along very well and become friends. That raises a question- why can't we behave the same way back home. After all human instincts has more love than hate, respect than disrespect, truth than falsehood and humility than pride. On human level a farmer in India and Pakistan is facing the same challenges and so is the businessman. We spent so much time hating and fighting and didn't achieve anything. Let us try love and respect and see how we can make both nation shine on the beloved earth.

Sense Apr 01, 2015 12:28am

@Jay Patel don't forget Modi

tarhub asghar Apr 01, 2015 12:32am

U r more than welcome to lahore and u will be amazed to see lahoriz hospitality

Saad Siddiqui Apr 01, 2015 12:37am

If we keep our national and political differences apart, then we both love each other, we enjoy across the border music, movies, dramas, after all we are humans and we are taught love

ahsan7979 Apr 01, 2015 12:46am

I think the author nailed it!

P.R.Koduri Apr 01, 2015 12:46am

I have lived for nearly four decades in Chicago and I must say my best and most pleasant interactions have been with Pakistanis and Punjabi Sardarjis. Give a smile and get a smile on Devon Street here but only from Pakistanis. Most Indians only look at you to say mind your own. Pakistan's Arts and Theater scene and their TV dramas of yesteryear reflect the outgoing nature of the people.

sarazubairi@yahoo.com Apr 01, 2015 01:00am

Glad u ENJOYED your stay and I am greatful that you like all other HINDUTANIS did not sterotype us PAKISTANIS.

Babloo Apr 01, 2015 01:35am

As per Pew Chapter 4: How Asians View Each Other'. 15% of Indians have favorable view of Pakistanis. 13% of Pakistanis have favorable view of India.

Hope everyone got their answer.

Aroon Apr 01, 2015 01:48am

The feelings are mutual. The author is a little too critical about his own country men's attitude. I know from experience that being a minority makes one feel that way no matter what. I think the world will treat you good if you are good to them. Keep it up Pakistanis!

Dhakawala Apr 01, 2015 01:56am

Political and religious leaders are the one who create hatred and division amongst people for their vested interest, otherwise people everywhere in the world are friendly, brotherly and sisterly—this is my observation.

Goutham Bellary Apr 01, 2015 02:19am

Would have loved more photos - I don't think the average aam aadmi in India would "Hate" pakistanis. I have a feeling they evoke the same camaraderie and curiosity and hospitality in India perhaps pakistanis who have been there can comment.

Dr K Apr 01, 2015 02:20am

There is a difference between how I feel toward the Pakistani government and Pakistani people. Most people on either side of the border have so much in common that there is no reason to not like any Pakistani. Now, just cause I love to poke my finger in your eyes on this site also doesn't mean I don't like you guys... its all brotherly banter.

raj Apr 01, 2015 02:55am

Its but natural to treat guests well.

Arslan Apr 01, 2015 03:03am

Interesting article. My experience in Delhi and Chandigarh was a mixed bag. This was going back in 1999. Friends of the friends I was visiting were very welcoming but random people in restaurants and food stalls were not nice especially in Delhi.

Shafique Apr 01, 2015 03:31am

we belong to each other and have roots! let's live like borthers

RAVI VERMA Apr 01, 2015 03:36am

I think this perceived warmth toward people from Pakistan changes from city to city and state to state. I am from Bihar and I have always seen a lot of warmth from people from Pakistan. Mumbai is a different matter all together; many Indians are not welcome in Mumbai specially if you are from UP or Bihar.

paul Apr 01, 2015 03:56am

originally from india, currently living outside india , some of my best friends are from pakistan; their love and personal warmth is unparalleled.

Rudraiah Rajasekhar Apr 01, 2015 04:55am

There is nothing unusual about Pakistanis being hospitable to Indian visitors, by nature they are very hospitable people and sixty five years of hostile propaganda has not blunted their softer side. On the other hand Indians specially Hindus will not welcome outsiders unless they belong to same caste. North Indians look down on southern's and south Indians look at north indians with suspicion and think they are very crude.

Javid Apr 01, 2015 05:07am

Most of the times Indian media has portrayed a negative image of Pakistan. Media is the most common source of knowledge about anything we don't have direct access to. So the same feelings have reciprocated into the common people. but those who don't give a damn to whatever the media cooks do love their neighbors.

SR Apr 01, 2015 05:17am

Noted with pleasure the statue of Mahatma Gandhi in the photo at the Pakistan Monument museum. Great story by the author. Dawn should encourage more articles like this and the other one about children visiting each other. It will open our eyes and heart.

Umair khan Apr 01, 2015 05:33am

My grand parents have often visited India over the years. And they have always shared good stories like this with us from India. So it all depends on circumstances and situation of your visit.

ALi Apr 01, 2015 05:48am

Pakistan is just one of the country out of 7 neighbors India have. People from Era of partition are long gone. In new India hardly anyone notice Pakistan except during Incidents of terror. Plus there is not love left in the heart of new generation of Indians after Kargil and Mumbai attacks. Don't want to be sarcastic but that truth Pakistani citizens must understand.

Moody Blue Apr 01, 2015 06:00am

@Arslan Did they know you were from Pakistan or that's the way people are to everyone?

Kautiliya Apr 01, 2015 06:03am

Ms. Johari all that glitters is not gold, Did you meet any Baluchi, or Christian or Hindu in this love in?

Tariq Nawaz Apr 01, 2015 06:18am

@Gurdaspur to Islamabad
My late father was an ICS officer and his last posting in India was Gurdaspur.My sister was few months old when the partition took place and he migrated to Pakistan.

Moody Blue Apr 01, 2015 06:28am

@Zak Yes, but only one left and willingly, giving everyone independence and freedom. Yes, both contributed (positively and negatively) to India in their own unique way. But both were brutal, domineering, destructive, kleptomanic, and sanctimoniously superior foreigners. But only one did not destroy or desecrate ancient Indian artifacts, monuments, and places of worship. Or convert forcibly its people. Also, only one of them connected Indians to our modern world - leaving behind science, technology, modern education, modern infrastructure, and modern governance system (including democracy) and the universal English language to communicate with others (including diverse language groups within India). Only one brought a spirit of curiosity and scholarship through which was rediscovered ancient civilizations (such Indus Valley; Ellora; Ajanta) and connected Sanskrit to the Indo-European family of languages. Guess which was which?

shipra Apr 01, 2015 06:38am

Indians do not show something in front and then back stab .

Aysha Apr 01, 2015 06:44am

I work with both North and South Indians....North Indians DO hate pakistanis....South Indians dont express much

ZAK Apr 01, 2015 06:45am

@Zak wet dream of a fool

ZAK Apr 01, 2015 06:46am

we love people better than us. more successful economically , education wise. of course we love Indians , they are better than us in every aspect.

Khan Apr 01, 2015 07:10am

It made me very emotional as it made me proud. It nice to hear good thing in the middle of all the negativity. Thank you people of Pakistan, Indians are not only our neighbors, but our family.

Arif Apr 01, 2015 07:23am

i got chance to visit Mumbay two times. Indians really treated me with a lot of respect and warmth when they came to know that I was from Pakistan. Specially Kashmiris on handicraft shopes even gave me gifts for my kids and wife too. Everybody wanted to talk with me and was interested to know more about Pakistan, especelly Lahore.

Pavan Devatha Apr 01, 2015 07:36am

Sir, The blame goes to Musharraf for derailing the peace process with the Kargil fiasco. Believe me, We would rather warm up to Pakistan and China then America. But Continued Land dispute with both is preventing the full measure of friendship.

Mazhar Mahood Apr 01, 2015 07:53am

Its unfortunate that most of people out side Pakistan formed a disgrace opinion about Pakistanis on the bases of negative media trail. In fact Pakistani nation is totally different what negativity is propagated by the other for their own vested interests. You can find hundreds of such examples practically.

amol Apr 01, 2015 07:59am

All right we love you to, just dont perform this terrorism alright.

Arun Apr 01, 2015 08:08am

I am from Mumbai, and know that hate arrived from Pakistan by sea. If Pakistan had speedily convicted those responsible, I could have believed the love Pakistanis have for India. But the fact is the public that makes a show of loving Indians has never protested the Pakistani State's actions in nurturing hate and sending it over the border - for over 25 years now. I'm sorry, I haven't gone mad, to love a people who so hate us.

Akil Akhtar Apr 01, 2015 08:16am

Give us a break, Indians are fed a dose of hatred every day by their media and politicians for the last 60 years.

Chandra Apr 01, 2015 08:18am

Reign in the so called non-state actors from mass murderous behaviour. Mumbai, has been targeted repeatedly and its people lot their loved ones. Please enjoy your tea and kebabs hospitality. Some of our conscious cannot forget the bomb-blasts and 26 Nov.

Amir Indian Apr 01, 2015 08:25am

@zak Indian and Pakistanis are totally different Culture wise, Language wise, Food wise, Education wise, History wise, Development wise. no similarity at all, and we Indians don't want any relations with Pakistan.

Doniya Apr 01, 2015 08:37am

I only love Pakistan!

Sharath Chandra Apr 01, 2015 08:43am

Thank you, Pakistan.

Zak Apr 01, 2015 08:48am

@ss I wish indians would respect kashmiri nationals and their UN plebiscite.

kumar aditya Apr 01, 2015 08:48am

ohh yes... “Of course we love you too!”.... many people like me love Pakistani people .we don't have any problem with them..we have only problem with terrorists.. and with those guys who kills innocent children in Pakistan...and innocent people in Indian

Zak Apr 01, 2015 08:51am

@Pal Sharma talk about UN plebiscite and see how the friendship crumbles and true feelings come out. We are not the same and never will be.

Zak Apr 01, 2015 08:54am

@Shafique UN kashmir plebiscite, first step!

Zak Apr 01, 2015 08:55am

Not impressed by this writer. Waste of time.

Vijay Apr 01, 2015 09:17am

I don't know about the other parts if India . in entire south India we love Pakistan peoples. we treat them as one of us. this can be seen through number if Pakistanis visiting chennai and Bangalore every year. While most of them comes for treatment this relation is beyond business where doctors, peoples shows care and affection. many transplantation has been done where an Indian organ is living in Pakistan without any passport, visa, or racism.. please do visit our country and you will feel the same.

Ashish Apr 01, 2015 09:19am

One sided article.

Tarique Apr 01, 2015 09:43am

The well written article provides a warm perspective of common people which I am sure is reciprocal. The fringe, marginal and jingoistic elements should take a back seat for the development of vast multitude of humanity across the borders through cooperation and goodwill.

Arun Sharma Apr 01, 2015 09:49am

What do you expect Indians to feel after the Mumbai and Parliament attack?

I have had some very good Pakistani friends abroad and I honestly would welcome the Pakistanis as friends in India. But both the nations have to work towards this.

Arun Apr 01, 2015 09:52am

I am also raising my hand in support of the fact that "INDIANS DO ALSO LOVE PAKISTANI."

Adventurer Apr 01, 2015 09:55am

@someone_else

It is some kind of hatred imbibed, probably the result of what has been taught to them. Hope you put my comment the reality.

Reader Apr 01, 2015 10:30am

i hope Indian trolls got their answer from this article. The reason we have differences is not because of Pakistanis, it's only because of baised Indian mentality.

Robert Apr 01, 2015 10:36am

Thank you, Dawn, for publishing this kind material which , in reality, is an effort to bring the people of India and Pakistan a little closer. We need more of these, many more- sustained for as long as it takes.

seshagiri Apr 01, 2015 10:49am

good. after reading this article, I am keen to visit pakistan

Ali Apr 01, 2015 10:51am

It is easy to dislike a people through complex biases when you do not meet them in the flesh. However, any decent and humane person would be unable to hate someone else having a lot of commonalities when they meet in a friendly environment.

raghu Apr 01, 2015 11:03am

@Zak First time I agree with you.

Saravanan, India Apr 01, 2015 11:16am

Ms.Johari, congrats on a well written article. But as an Indian I do not agree with you. It is the Pakistani establishment that an average Indian mistrusts - not all the people of the country. I am very sure that Indians too will offer the same hospitality and warmth to an 'average' Pakistani if they meet one in India - I definitely will, personally. History has played with our two nations, but there still is hope for peace, only and only because the people of the country not necessarily hate each other, individual to individual.

raj Apr 01, 2015 11:21am

So,we could travel to Pakistan without getting bombed or changing our religion ??? Sounds grt,we May test this testimony ,someday !!!!!

ms Apr 01, 2015 11:22am

if only pakistani were as welcoming and hospitable towards hindu indian travellers as they are for muslim indian tourists.. muslim chauvinism speaks it all

PRABHKAR.S Apr 01, 2015 11:30am

Dear Dawn, I am an adern fan of

Shehryar Apr 01, 2015 11:30am

I love this, first time Pakistan and India are quarreling over "who loves the other more", this generation has spent a lot of time fighting over one thing or the other, let us discontinue with this precedence and create and safe haven for the future generations. Ameen

Sara Apr 01, 2015 11:33am

the way indian journalists treat Pakistani stars/crickteres with sarcastic demaening comments with a mean smirk is enough to see the difference

peace for all Apr 01, 2015 11:34am

i am a hindu from india.yes indian feel same, one of my best freind is from pakistan he is like a family.

johar nawaz Apr 01, 2015 11:51am

Thank you for trying to address the wrong perceptions in the minds of Indians about Pakistani society. Next time come to Khyber Pakhtoonkhwa,the land of hospitality. Thanks.

Madhab Shil Apr 01, 2015 11:55am

Actually its tears in my eyes. I also heard from some one that they treat indians well like guest in their house. Good to see such hospitality from them. We have learns it from them. Thanks Bros and sis of pak.

Aamchi Mumbai Apr 01, 2015 12:02pm

@kaka Are there Indian companies in Pakistan? What is the name of the company?

Nikhil Kulkarni Apr 01, 2015 12:04pm

First of all, To all pakistan nationalists, here in India one can roam around wearing some identified Islam costumes but can we roam there wearing some saffron religious costume? will everyone stare us?

M.Saeed Apr 01, 2015 12:10pm

@Aamchi Mumbai: Your up-votes here simply prove the fact.

awarabadal Apr 01, 2015 12:42pm

Yes. Why even bother asking the question? We are separated and yet we belong to the same bloodline. Forcibly separated a time when we should have been united to change for the better. And that separation has resulted in loss of many a valuable life on both sides. And to achieve what?

The conscious Apr 01, 2015 12:43pm

Dawn is doing this commendable job of creating lot of positiveness in Indo-Pak relations. Good article, very warm. I too wish to visit Pak, the harappan sites, street foods of Lahore.. Any chance that a vegetarian can survive there?

Addy Apr 01, 2015 12:50pm

My family is not from Pakistan but I have a "visit to Pakistan" in my bucket list. I wanted to meet the ordinary people, wanted to talk to students, wanted to sit with journalists and discuss as to how best we can resolve our differences.

aftab Apr 01, 2015 01:03pm

Pakistan and India must realise that present animosity suits none other then westerners who are major beneficiary by selling their weapons to both countries.Insanity should prevail at both sides while both should work for prosperity of their people.Both should resolve the differences and enjoy the fruits of peace and progress.

KERALITE Apr 01, 2015 01:33pm

I love Pakistanis.And I wish both Pakistan and India overcome the borderdisputes and deep suspicions as soon as possible through peaceful negotiations in an environment free from terrorism and ceasefire violations.India and Pakistan should be like allies just like Usa and Canada.

.Ashhad Apr 01, 2015 01:59pm

I have visited India 05 times and at least I found nothing difference between us. Obviously I felt bit uncomfortable when police van was behind me until I reached my hotel after watching a movie :) Now I am abroad and there are tens of fellow Pakistani and Indian in my department and finally I described them the people of both countries from urban areas are bit mature, understandable and they take things on merit. Comparatively people of semi urban areas are bit emotional and never miss chance to take the other party on shoes - but this is the reality that is already embedded in our minds by politicians, religious leader and media/social media.

diwakar Apr 01, 2015 02:25pm

@N.Sid .Your comment tells it all, unintentionally !!

xyz Apr 01, 2015 02:35pm

if both sides love each other then why on earth are we fighting for the past seven decades

FARRUKH EJAZ Apr 01, 2015 02:40pm

There are very few people like you who realize the fact and accept the hospitality in its true sense. I really appreciate your heart touching feelings.

diwakar Apr 01, 2015 02:53pm

@AJ .I have studied in India but haven't seen any portrayel of pakistan as a bad wolf.Whatever people feel are based on the happenings on ground.Better get your facts right.

diwakar Apr 01, 2015 03:00pm

@putin .Same advice need to be given to actor Nasiruddin Shah too who recently came bach with similar rosy picture.

Xanthos Apr 01, 2015 03:31pm

Shekhar Gupta's experience in Pakistan after a rcent visit http://indiatoday.intoday.in/story/shekhar-gupta-pakistan-writing-on-wall-suspects-everyone/1/426022.html

Gurdaspur to Islamabad Apr 01, 2015 04:01pm

@Tariq Nawaz Thanks for sharing. My father now 80 living at Lahore. In his spare time we used to listen stories about his native village Sahowal Gurdaspur. Surprisingly people at our village still know about our family especially about my grand father. I also got CD from Sardar Jee about the function and observe that topic of the discussion was only about the son of the land who studied in the school and served Punjab University, Lahore. No hate as being Muslim and Pakistani and further no problem about hosting Pakistani flag in the function.

Haris Apr 01, 2015 05:05pm

Thank you for the wonderful article and I am glad you enjoyed your trip in Islamabad! Cricket stadium should be our war ground and outside that stadium, we should just be good neighbours! :)

Nabiha Apr 01, 2015 05:23pm

very interesting loved it! I'm a Pakistani too and I don't think we should have any personal issues with Indians regarding past or any cricket match

E.SOMAPALAN Apr 01, 2015 06:12pm

We the people of India love people of Pakistan, no doubt about it, but alas, .......................

Kamal Apr 01, 2015 08:48pm

Wars of games, not games of Wars. Cheers! Yes, I love India and all my friends and family know it very well how much I love India. I long to go to that part of the world one day.

Hum hath hawa k bhaijain gay, khushbu Lahore ki matti ki Tum bhi Ravi ki lehron par, dilli k phool baha daina.

SinghIsKing Apr 02, 2015 02:38am

@zak the great :-) why are u mixing Kashmir in this article? Grow up man.

SinghIsKing Apr 02, 2015 03:11am

I am amazed by the hospitality experienced by any Indian visiting Pakistan. People from my lokal Gurudwaras who visit Pakistan talk about similar experience...eventhough they as well can tell about some anti India activity though some Pak agencies which India is fully aware of. But the people to people contact is very positive and they love each other. Its encouraging and Give hope..and show that the by heart people from both side of borderrlove each other.

AHSAN ZAFAR Apr 02, 2015 09:13am

We went to Hyderabad and Mohali in January for a study tour with the Institute of Business Administration (IBA), Karachi. The warmth, love and generosity we witnessed was overwhelming, i was a skeptic at first, but the trip was life-changing. It was amazing how strangers who we were only seeing for a few days and would probably never see us again, were so friendly and welcoming. simply hanging out with them was brilliant. we've had whatsapp fights and discussions during all the cricket matches actually rooting for each others teams ever since. We have far more in common than the Europeans have with one another, its a shame our politics and recent history don't allow us to be as border independent as Europe.

JDJ Apr 02, 2015 10:31am

I like to hear Pakistani people love Indians But we Indians are brainwashed by news like Pakistan opposing India in cricket Big three or UNSC ! so Pakistan, please do a favor to India by dispelling these doubts by globally supporting India and so sharing with India the prosperity fate !

shekhar Apr 02, 2015 10:45am

We Indians don't have an ill feeling for our pakistani friends. This may be your view points, but don't make it a generalized statement. We do care for them and wish them a better prosperity in all respects.

Shankar Apr 02, 2015 11:11am

@Reader Who is trolling now?

Harish Kiran G S Apr 02, 2015 11:19am

@Iftikhar Anwar Respect is not given but earned.

massoom Apr 02, 2015 11:23am

Some times I think the only perception that our neighbours have about us if as if we are just NORTH INDIAN hindi speaking people. India is too big and diverse as a country for them to just term us as Indians.. Different people in India have democratically free will to have their views good bad or ugly regarding anyone within or across the border. We dont share same feeling for either China or Srilanka... I wonder if the Northeastern brothers or from South or West do worry of Pak at all :P So just chill...You cant type cast us...so easily...

Sanjoy Sankar Guha Apr 02, 2015 11:54am

@Ali Fully agree with. Care and concern for all human beings.THAT is a noble mind speaking.

Alwyn Apr 02, 2015 12:07pm

I really don't see any reason why we as an Indian should hate Pakistan or vice versa. Unfortunately, it's the politicians from both sides of the border & also media to some extent who are spilling venom in the minds of ordinary people to create hatred. Even, I was also a victim of such cheap media like many ordinary people but I have changed my attitude to being positive towards Pakistan. Like the population exchange of India & Pakistan, even Greece & Turkey had a population exchange 92 years ago, but they are living as good neighbors & do not hold grudges. I hope both India & Pakistan should learn from Greece & Turkey. Thanks dawn for this wonderful article.

Mo Apr 02, 2015 03:30pm

@Guru jee Untrue, yes there are Hindu communities that are not treated well but once the Hindu's come into the cities its all the same. Anyone living in communities away from the general populace is treated with suspicion.

Haider Javed Apr 02, 2015 05:05pm

Pakistanis are different. They tend to be more hospitable and generous than their Indian counterparts. For sure.

Haroon Al-Rashid Apr 02, 2015 06:19pm

I am sure Indians love Pakistan, in spite of myriad and ongoing wars, cross-border terrorism, Mumbai and other attacks, refusal to grant MFN status to India in spite of India having done so years ago, and most recently, the proliferation of small-capacity nukes to Brigade Commanders on the Pakistan side in spite of the full awareness that such "suitcase" nukes will be ultimately detonated in Indian cities clandestinely. Indians are supposed to and WILL love Pakistan.

Qazi Apr 02, 2015 06:45pm

@Gurdaspur to Islamabad Thanks alot. You are indeed loving people.

someone_else Apr 02, 2015 09:02pm

@Adventurer Yes could be the text books. But then after some time, you are not dependent upon text books to make your own opinion. In today's world where information of all sort is available at finger tips, if one choose to remain misinformed, then its not just education, it is something else.

Harris Apr 02, 2015 09:25pm

just because Hindi and Urdu is similar and we share the same history doesn't mean we should force ourselves to be friends... being mutually respectful is enough and don't put the other in a situation you don't want to be should be sufficient......

Suresh Apr 02, 2015 10:20pm

very touching indeed!! recently when India lost the semi-finals against Australia there were so many calls made by Pakistan and we know what they were about? if pakistanis love Indians so much then why do they exist as a separate nation? why so much bloodshed is being caused in India? why anyone who is against India is Pakistan's dearest friend? Pakistanis have no love for India, I was there last year on behalf of a UK company and everywhere they only talked about Kashmir and hatred for India and Indians

Suresh Apr 02, 2015 10:23pm

@Striver Indian media is free, doesn't take dictation from Indian Government or India Military unlike Pakistan Media where criticising ISI DG results in closure of channel.

Neil Apr 02, 2015 11:17pm

@Suresh Exactly!

Ali Apr 02, 2015 11:40pm

Beautiful article, lets hope both common citizens feel the same warmth and love for one another now, and in the future.

jagmohan Apr 03, 2015 07:02am

India is a country with the philosophy that whole world is our family[Vasudhaiv Kutumbkam], an ancient saying.This allowed success of foreign invasions,long periods of their rule and relative social and political stability.Even foreign religions prospered in India.It was only in the mid 19th century that spirit of independence surfaced and springing of nation states on global map resulted into self rule and movement against British rule developed.A long period of Moghul rule passed on peacefully and even that of orthodox ruler Aurangzeb was endured peacefully. Hindus,Muslims,Christians and so many other religions kept on living peacefully, even after partition and birth of Pakistan, India continues to be a secular state and hardly there are any turmoils as unfortunately we see in present Pakistan,some ethnic and mostly intra Islamic faith.Majority of Indians have good wishes for Pakistan and

despite Kashmir problem,efforts are to live as peaceful neighbors.This problem has occaisoned wars from the side of Pakistan and unending terrorists attacks on Indian borders and soil has not been revenged/avenged.Indians as ever want to extend good will,peace and respect to Pakistan as a sovereign country and love for the people. Extension of good will have equally good response from Indian people as there is no hate or any religious orthodox ideology.Love for Pakistan.

sanjeev yadav Apr 03, 2015 09:04am

Wish this love had been expressed in 1940s.

Moody Yeller Apr 03, 2015 10:04am

@sanjeev yadav Better late than never!

Maxx. Apr 03, 2015 10:25am

@AHSAN ZAFAR Hyderabad and Mohali has a predominantly Muslim and Indian punjabi population respectively. There were reports of Hyderabadi Muslims supporting Pakistani cricket team over India. Hyderabad was a princely state, and was included in the Indian state through military force.

Sanjoy Sankar Guha Apr 03, 2015 10:55am

@sanjeev yadav This love is being expressed now because the Aquarian Age has started and peoples' hatred will metamorphose into love, but not before great suffering and calamities. Those who are against the tide will be washed away into oblivion.

Manjeet kocchar Apr 03, 2015 11:57am

Indians , Pakistanis minus politicians are great people who gel with each oher well

NaC Apr 03, 2015 03:05pm

Hate against Pakistan is a "MUST HAVE" for India. As this hate works as a cement for the fake fragile and unnatural indian union. Imagine if Indians Free Kashmir and make good relations with Pakistan , that day will be end of India and it will disintegrate itself. Only 1) Hate against Pakistan 2) Cricket 3) English These are the only 3 factors keeping Indian union intact. Baniya will never take risk on these 3.

farash Apr 03, 2015 03:41pm

@Sare Jahan Se Achchha Please read your comments, it says that "Chandigarh Government asked". The Pakistani Vendor who offered Kebab & Tea, as mentioned in the Article, was not "asked" by Pakistani Government. This is our tradition which makes us Pakistanis "different" from common Indians. We have accepted India but unfortunately Indian don't accept Pakistan as a separate and "different" nation & country.

Enkay Apr 03, 2015 04:17pm

The only grouse Indians have against Pakistan is that Pakistan is Perpetrating Terrorism by not controlling the Pakistani Based Terrorists. Otherwise Indians have all the High Regard and Good Feelings for Pakistan in General and Pakistanis in Particular.

hari Apr 03, 2015 08:27pm

@Gaurav Arya hmm...why do you let down your own brethern (TN,Kerala,Nagaland) just to be feel good with Pakistan people...people in these states are very patriotic and will give their lives for India, what about the people in the other side..how many wish good will for India? Try to keep an Idol and start worship before your guest when you are there,then you will feel how they treat you. best of luck.

M. Saeed Awan Apr 03, 2015 09:38pm

Indian Pakistani harmony can be noticed at abroad where both share common culture, movies, cricket, gup shup etc. I've travelled to India and found hospitality there but scenario changed after Mumabi attacks. If Indians don't mind then they should compare their readers comments in their own newspapers against Paksitan. While paper like Dawn always paint sober picture for India. Indian movies are screened here but never been stoned or agitation even from Hafiz Saeed. But our artists are being kicked off. In nutshell its need of the hour to have friendship among SAARC countries.

Tamil Apr 03, 2015 10:28pm

@kaka stay safe.

Tamil Apr 03, 2015 10:42pm

@Red and I enjoy when kashmiri student wave pakistan flag in India and cheer for pakistan to win.

Bilal Apr 04, 2015 02:41am

This is exactly what we need! More interaction with normal people from either sides of the border! Kudos to the American embassy for organizing such an event. It really pains me to see the efforts the American consulate is making to show the people of Pakistan that they are actually interested in seeing us progress in spite of the hate they get from large sections of the general Pakistani population.