The proponents of arranged marriage feel that because the match is conducted between the families, they receive unfettered support in their every day lives. Whether it's about child rearing, or understanding the wife's desire to work, the families are completely in sync with the couple and act as a terrific support system. It could be surmised that the families feel compelled to act in such a way as to maximise that union's chances of success as they played active roles in pushing the match through. The family works as cement to paper over the potential cracks and acts as the foundation that the couple can stand upon.

Love marriage couples do not always have the same degree of support. This is not to say that they fight with their families; however, they may not enjoy a close relationship with them, because the families didn't build the bonds that exist in an arranged marriage. Love does seem to conquer all, as even though things may get a little tough, they still find other avenues of support. But nothing really compares to having a strong family unit. Over time, those bonds do build up, but it depends on how the relationship between both families develops.

Couples in arranged marriage find that due consideration has been given to both the partners and the families. As the arranging families usually know each other, the wheels are set in motion long before the couple even meet. Families take into consideration the more practical things, for example, will religion be an issue, do the couple have a similar outlook on life, are their temperaments attuned, etc.

In love marriages the only people who really know each other well are the couple themselves. They are less likely to introduce their significant other to his/her family-at-large until they've come to the conclusion that this is the person they want to marry. They have gotten to know each other and have decided on who they are going to spend the rest of their lives with. They have evaluated their own capability based on metrics more specific to them, rather than what their families might have had in mind for them. The family is completely disconnected from this process, and usually are not on board. Since they are not really involved in the process, they are therefore less likely to provide much emotional and general support after marriage. Decision making power has shifted from the family to the couple.

One phenomenon that seems to have emerged in the current generation is the concept of “Arranged Love Marriage”. Whereby, the family and relatives attempt to place the couple together through casual encounters, mysteriously consistent sitting arrangements at dinner parties and creating situations where the (soon-to-be) couple can interact in a stress-free manner. When done properly, neither partner has a clue that they have been set up by their families till they've already established their relationship. What is particularly convenient about this is that the family remains in the background and doesn't put pressure on a match to blossom. They assume that if the couple is compatible, the more time and opportunity they get to spend together, they will develop a relationship that would result in matrimony.

The differing ideas behind each process are simple. In the love marriage set up, you don't ask the big questions; the ones that will matter in the future, and by the time you come to them your hormones may have already decided for you. However, in the arranged marriage and arranged love marriage framework, one is already interacting with 'approved candidates' and so there is everything to gain.

The goal of any marriage is the same to find a suitable life partner. Life is tough enough as it is, and having people who care enough about your happiness to prod you in (hopefully) the right direction is not a bad idea. If some choose to undertake that search by themselves, they should realise that in the end, everyone means well and wants them to find someone to make them happy. That is what family, whether by blood or marriage, is all about.