In small-town India, a monument to love

Published December 8, 2014
Retired postman Faizul Hassan Qadri, 79, shows a picture of him and his late wife Tajammuli in their younger years, inside his home in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh. — AP
Retired postman Faizul Hassan Qadri, 79, shows a picture of him and his late wife Tajammuli in their younger years, inside his home in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh. — AP

KASER KALAN: Light pours in when the retired postman opens the window to his bedroom. A withered old poster filled with flowers appears out of the shadows. “Love is enough,” the poster says.

Faizul Hasan Qadri is 79 now. He and his wife, Tajammuli, were married when they were teenagers, and were together for 58 years.

Three years ago, she died. Now, he can look out that window and see the monument he is building in Tajammuli's memory.

Retired postman Faizul Hassan Qadri, 79, walks out out the monument he is building for his late wife Tajammuli in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh. — AP
Retired postman Faizul Hassan Qadri, 79, walks out out the monument he is building for his late wife Tajammuli in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh. — AP

The central building has a rounded ceiling and archways, echoing the architecture of the long-gone Mughal kings who once ruled India.

Four towers are on the building's perimeter. It is Tajammuli's tomb.

Children gather next the mausoleum of Tajammuli, the late wife of retired postman Faizul Hassan Qadri in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh.— AP
Children gather next the mausoleum of Tajammuli, the late wife of retired postman Faizul Hassan Qadri in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh.— AP

“We were just a normal couple,” says Qadri.

It was an arranged marriage, a practice that remains widespread across India, and near-universal when he was a young man.

“Whenever we had a fight and I was angry, she would keep quiet and vice versa.“

They never had any children. One day, Tajammuli asked who would remember them once they were gone. “I will build a tomb that everybody will remember,” he told her.

It was for her, he says, though one day he will also be laid inside it. After she died, he sold her small pieces of jewelry and some family farmland. He added everything he'd saved over the years and started building.

Retired postman Faizul Hasan Qadri, 79, pauses inside the tomb were he buried his late wife Tajammuli in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh.— AP
Retired postman Faizul Hasan Qadri, 79, pauses inside the tomb were he buried his late wife Tajammuli in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh.— AP

Tajammuli lies inside the main building in a small tomb, but almost three years later the project still unfinished.

He doesn't have much money, and only hires workers when he can afford it. People have offered to help, but he says no.

“It is a proof of love. I have to do it on my own,” Qadri says.

Qadri designed the building himself, clearly inspired by India's ancient monuments. But he laughed when villagers started calling it the Taj Mahal, after the mausoleum famously built by a Mughal king for his favorite wife.

He'd only visited the Taj Mahal once. It is 140 kilometers (85 miles) away from here, and they had little money for traveling. Tajammuli only saw it in pictures.

In the bedroom, a clock ticks next a picture of the couple in their older years, and Qadri reads aloud from love poems he wrote for her after she died.

A portrait of retired postman Faizul Hasan Qadri and his late wife Tajammuli is placed on a shelf inside Faizul's house in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh. — AP
A portrait of retired postman Faizul Hasan Qadri and his late wife Tajammuli is placed on a shelf inside Faizul's house in the town of Kaser Kalan, in the Indian state of Uttar Pradesh. — AP

Beside him sits a marble plaque engraved with Tajammuli's name. He will install it, he says, only once the mausoleum is completed.

If he has to, he will keep working on it until he dies. When that happens, his younger brother Mehzul Hasan, 70, will bury him next to his wife, and finish the job.

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