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Mushtari, aged 40, looked tired. It was 10 in the morning but it seemed as though she had just completed a day’s load of chores. As we walked towards a small room, where I wanted to sit down with her and record an interview in relative silence, she dragged her way in. 

Life is too heavy a burden for this woman, who got married at the age of 14 and has given birth to 10 children. Her youngest daughter (six) tugged at her mother’s shirt as she revealed that never in her 26-year marriage, had she used any form of contraception.

Living in a village called Islamabad Karuna in the Khyber Pakhtunkhwa province, Mushtari is yet another Pakistani woman who faces severe health hazards as a result of bearing too many children. Her story is a reminder of a basic right that a staggering number of Pakistani women are denied – the right to choose when and how many children to bear.

After going door-to-door and woman-to-woman in the village and inquiring about the forms of contraception they use, if at all, it was evident to me thatPakistanhas a major problem – an “unmet need” for contraception. These are the ‘needs’ of women who want to delay or stop childbearing and are potential users of contraception, but do not use contraception. It is often a problematic challenge for advocates of women’s empowerment, who work towards providing women a better quality of life.

The Demographic Health Survey (DHS) 2006-07 indicates that the median age of Pakistani women at the time of the first marriage is 19 years. Yet, in the deeply traditional KP, the age of girls at the time of marriage is often much younger. A lack of awareness about contraception, illiteracy and deeply entrenched social conditioning that associates a higher social status with a greater number of children (especially sons), makes contraception taboo. Although a majority of Islamic scholars agree on use of non-permanent and less invasive forms of contraception, orthodox beliefs convince people that contraception is against religion.

“Our Contraception Prevalence Rate (CPR) has been stuck at 30 per cent for more than a decade. The definite unmet need shows that people, particularly women, do want to use contraceptives, but we have failed to deliver,” says Dr Azra Ahsan of National Committee on Maternal and Neonatal Health. According to the DHS 2006-07,Pakistan has a 24.9 per cent unmet need for contraception.

In the entire village, Alishba’s house was the only one where any form of contraception had been used. Alishba, five, is the youngest of the six children of a lady, who preferred to be called “Alishba’s mother”. She was the only woman who had used an Intra-Uterine Device (IUD) as a contraceptive method, thanks to the support of her husband.

“The main issue in KP, when it comes to unmet need, is a lack of awareness. And since male dominance is a norm, women do not have a right over their own bodies and have no right of decision-making when it comes to deciding on the number of children,” says Dr Nasreen Ruby Faiz, Head of the Department of Gynecology at Lady Reading Hospital in Peshawar.

While in the terrorism-ridden province, access to contraceptives remains one of the core problems, social, cultural and religious traditions as well as poverty and lack of awareness are bigger hurdles in practicing birth control.

“Women’s purpose of life in these areas is producing babies and cooking,” says Dr Zahida Begum of theLadyReadingHospital, who is in-charge of the contraception unit. In Dr Zahida’s experience, if at all they come to a health centre for contraceptive advice, they have already had five to six children.

In the same village, 27-year-old Parveen has been married for ten years and has already been pregnant six times. She has never practiced contraception, because her 68-year-old jobless husband doesn’t approve of it.

Besides health hazards caused by having an uncontrolled number of children with no spacing, unsafe abortions are used as a form of family planning when an unwanted pregnancy occurs.

“I wish I had been to school and knew about this. But now, I plan to take charge, and seek help so that I can concentrate on a better future for my children,” she said.

The author is a freelance features writer and editor.

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Riaz Murtaza Mar 08, 2012 11:39pm
Pakistan, proud of KP people. Brave and friendly !
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kamaljit Singh Mar 09, 2012 01:21am
Mohtarma Farahnaz: I find your article a service to the woman in the subcontinent because it is more or less the same situation in here. What you are trying to say I wonder whether the Mullas will allow this. It is sheer cruelty. Every brother or father should hold his head down in shame. I appeal to all the MALES ( if they like it instead of brothers and fathers)to read this article with their sisters before their eyes. Pl keep it up. Regards
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miramshah Mar 09, 2012 05:07am
“Women’s purpose of life in these areas is producing babies and cooking,” says Dr Zahida Begum- Seems Dr. Zahida Begum made the cut.
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Anwar Mahmood Mar 09, 2012 08:18am
She would have been a prized and well rewarded woman in Canada after having given birth to a dozen kids at age 40. There is much of social, financial and moral assistance to them very fertile women in the form of kids money in shape of rewards and paid house rent, food assistance, a car or may be two and money on top of all else coming her way and her kids that benefits the husband too. I am a Punjabi in Canada and I have befriended pathans even more.Pathan women are very pretty, lovely, loverly, lovable, lovesome and even loyal. Come on, do not disparage the kids bearing human machine.Them pathan women are just sweet, grand, charming and livable.
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Farahnaz Zahidi Mar 10, 2012 01:54am
Thank you for the valuable comment Kamaljit sahab. I tend to agree
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