Start with yourself

You need to know that you are good enough. Think of it like a jug of water: you can't keep emptying yourself out to look after children around you without filling yourself up again.

Remember what it's like to be a child

Think back to your own childhood and recall how it felt when you said to your parents you were upset because no one wanted to play with you at break-time. Then, as a parent, respond accordingly. Spend time with them and do something they like doing for a change, instead of trying to be in charge. Don't undervalue the importance of this: it can immediately shift things.

Descriptive praise

Be specific about what they have done, instead of just saying “good boy/girl”. Learn to tell them what you want them to do instead of saying what you don't want: “Hold my hand tight”, not “don't run into the road”.

Explain your behaviour

It's important your child understands why you're doing what you're doing, so make sure you explain. And try to understand why they are behaving as they are.

Use sticker charts and star charts 

Tangible rewards can teach and encourage self-discipline and end bad behaviour.—Dawn/The Guardian News Service