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If you have a complicated relationship with your parents, Hania Aamir has a message for you

If you have a complicated relationship with your parents, Hania Aamir has a message for you

The actor knows that a complicated relationship with one's mother can lead to them feeling bad on Mother's Day, and it's okay.
10 May, 2021

While Mother's Day is a wholesome and celebrated day for most, it might lead to feelings of remorse for people with strained relationships with their mothers. Hania Aamir understands this, given her fractured relationship with her father, and says it's okay to feel like this.

The actor uploaded a video to her Instagram, wishing her fans a happy Mother's Day, and sharing her thoughts.

"I'm sharing something very personal," she said. "My father is alive. Well and healthy, but we don't stay connected due to personal reasons. I don't feel the best on Father's Day because we don't speak with each other. I do love him, and can't imagine him not being in this world anymore," she said.

"Today's Mother's Day and I was thinking that there are so many people whose mothers have passed away, or maybe they don't talk, and I'd imagine all these posts would annoy them, make them feel bad and sad even," the Parwaz Hai Junoon actor said.

The actor admitted that perhaps she can't feel their pain. "I just wanted to come here and acknowledge that if you're going through something like this, I see you. And it's okay," she said.

While she struggled to recommend how people should behave in such a situation, or what they should do to make themselves feel better, she said on Father's Day, she just lets it pass.

"I'm here sending loads of love, and the warmest hugs," she said, asking for people to just hang in there. "You got this!" she added.

Relationships with parents are complicated, with all the love and care found in them, there's also a constant struggle that intensifies with age. People grow up to develop their own opinions, ideas and plans for themselves which might not always coincide with their parents' wishes, and that often leads to complications.

While there's no one-size-fits-all solution for such troubles, or the feelings that rise as a result, it's important to remember what you share. There's nothing like a parent's love for their children.

But in case you don't have a relationship with your parents, or you have a strained relationship, we want to echo Aamir's words, hold on and let it pass. You got this.

Comments

Brownflower May 10, 2021 06:30pm
Seems she's got both mommy and daddy issues.
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Saif Zulfiqar May 10, 2021 06:40pm
Never ever argue with your elders if you want to be happy in your life.
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Sami May 10, 2021 07:22pm
She should apologize to her parents for whatever happened in past and patch up with her family again.
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Ibrahim May 10, 2021 09:47pm
@Saif Zulfiqar - Open communication is not an argument. If you don't have open communication with your parents or sibling then you got a problem
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Chrís Dăn May 10, 2021 10:57pm
@Ibrahim agreed.
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NYS May 10, 2021 11:31pm
@Ibrahim exactly
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M. Saeed May 11, 2021 12:17am
How inhuman to be inhuman to your parents.
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Rizwan May 11, 2021 12:54am
Why is she even relevant ?
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asim May 11, 2021 02:06am
folks don't look up to celebs for getting such advises -
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Fast comment May 11, 2021 05:56am
Just go and apologize to your parents. They’ll love to pardon you.
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Ginny May 11, 2021 05:59am
I'm 37 and mother's day is so painful. Thank you Hania for bravely posting. Your words affirmed for me that I'm not the only one and it is ok to disengage from a toxic parental relationship.
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Dr ayesha May 11, 2021 07:05am
She's a young girl and she addresses a complicated issue with such ease. Kudos to her courage. Shout out to all those whose parents didnt have their backs.
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Khwaja Shirjeel May 11, 2021 07:16am
Relations with parents are never complicated, if they were we would have grown up in SOS. Blame yourself for the one sided relationship.
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Ifti Malik May 11, 2021 08:56am
The reality of poor children-parents communication is a big , submerged iceberg in Pakistani society .
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Shamain May 11, 2021 12:49pm
I am glad she shared it. While many might assume her words are weightless as her relationship might be bad with dad due to her profession and sort of dressing she does, but thing is ppl have bad relationships even when they are from conservative backgrounds or dont dress up as her. Cause abuse by parents is a reality and in pakistan people refuse to accept parental abuse. Comments section below is a prime example ppl started judging her right away as being wrong in her message cause of the sort of lifestyle she leads. I dont personally like her but majority pakistani parents are toxic and kids are taught to still be grateful for that toxicity.
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Kashif ahmad May 11, 2021 01:45pm
@Brownflower yeah
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Fatima May 11, 2021 02:10pm
Thank you so much for addressing this subject. You speak out of my heart. What should you do - if parents do not want a discussion? If they just want to have it their way??? Any advise??? They don't own me- very important decision about my life are mine to make. I have to live with them.
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Mustafa May 11, 2021 02:17pm
i think they could be wrong, we offsprings too but wouldn`t this better to sit and sought all the matters out or forget them for life,Cant we begin this again with prosper and complacency, There could be the cultural difference and their entire surrounding that might be the reason that led them there,this thing have to be understand being a mature being of a family, So lets start?
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Chrís Dăn May 12, 2021 01:40pm
@Shamain sincere relationships are unconditional.
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Al May 13, 2021 01:21pm
"She cant imagine" Idiotic post
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