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Super Sis
Dear Super Sir,
When I was in grade IV, I made a best friend, Satra, who was my class fellow. Now we are in class V. Once I called her place to invite her to my home, but she asked me to call her later because her cousins were over. Later when I called her later, she said that she was still busy with her cousins and that she didn’t want me calling her again. She abruptly cut the line. I was very sad and my day was ruined. I felt like talking to her about it, but I was afraid that she would think I was getting upset over nothing. All my friends think that we’ve had a fight and that I shouldn’t have made her my best friend in the first place. I don’t know what to do.
Anonymous
First things first, and it is for all those sending queries to me, before you send a problem, make sure to get your spellings, grammar and sentence structures corrected by some body, okay? I sometimes have difficulty understanding your problem. (No offence intended; you should be more careful next time and try to work upon your writing).
Getting down to business, Anon, I keep telling you kids time and again, stop getting so emotionally involved with people! I mean … fine … your friend acted like a jerk, but keep your mental faculties open to options. May be she really was busy that day and she was in a rush to attend her cousins, so she cut the line. The only way to solve this whole issue and get over your insecurities is to talk things out with her. Tell her that her behaviour hurt you and get to the facts, rather than making up imaginary stories about how mean she was to you. If she really is your friend, she will clear out the cobwebs and things will return to normal. If she is still showing you an attitude, well then, it’s time to move out and move on. Who said you can only have one best friend? There are loads of other nicer people to look out for. So take a chill pill and grow up! Cheers.
Dear Super Sis,
I am a 14-year-old girl and I am very confused about my best friend. I don’t seem to know what’s got into her! She now has this really big attitude problem and cannot stand a single joke that I or some of my female class fellows play. However, if the same joke is played by a boy she laughs her head off.
Everything was fine until she got into this stupid love affair. A boy said he loved her and threatened to kill himself if she left him. He got really messy and she left him and later found out that he had spread nasty rumours about her even before she left him. But that boy totally changed her. Now all she does is try my patience. Sometimes she is bearable and nice but on others she misbehaves a lot. She hangs out with girls I really hate, she does all the things that make her an ill mannered brat and when I try to stop her, she starts shouting and as I’m emotional myself, I freak out too. It’s no use talking to her. Please tell me what to do. I am really worried about her.
Heart-broken Friend
HBF, don’t take things to heart. We all hate boys who do things like that, and it is such a hoot when little boys “threaten” to kill themselves over their idiotic “love affairs”. I would just like to see some one actually try doing it, hahaha! Anyway, it seems your friend is going through this crazy phase when girls obsess about anything male that moves. Well, you’re much more sensible, and you know what to do. You have already tried your level best to talk reason into her, but apparently it is not working. Well then, leave her alone on the issue. Give her space and let her be. Don’t keep bringing up something that’s causing a rift between you two.... clearly she’s drawing a line at this issue, so don’t cross it. Perhaps she needs a first-hand experience to come to her senses on her own. Just be there if she approaches you on her own, but don’t bring up the subject yourself.
Despite this, if she keeps giving you a cold shoulder and showing an attitude, you don’t need to sacrifice your personal dignity to please her. If you feel humiliated and hurt persistently, then this girl isn’t worth sticking around with. Give things a break by hanging around other friends. Hopefully, she will come to her senses on her own. Good luck.
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