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SUPER SIS
Dear Super Sis,
I am a student of class VIII. There is a girl in my class whom I like but I don’t have the guts to tell her. Please help me!
Confused
Confused C ... take a chill pill! You’re in grade VIII. That would make you, say, around 13 years old? Whoa... you’ve just stepped into your teens, man. Congrats. I take it you like this girl in a kind of a ‘crush’ sense? Trust me with this one, kiddo ... keep your feelings to yourself. No use telling her that you like her ‘that’ way. She’ll just freak out, make a scene, tell you to get lost and spread word around that you’re a freak.
Instead, what you CAN do is approach her in a nice, friendly manner. Befriend her, and just be good company to hang around with. That’s actually about pretty much all that girls want from boys in their class. If you try acting all mushy and Romeo-like, it won’t help matters.
For the time being, try concentrating on other stuff ... like, say, your favourite PS II games and the awesome movie about to be released next week ... or exams! I might sound conservative right now, but then again, extreme times call for extreme measures. Good luck.
I study in grade nine. My boyfriend is 20 and he used to have a girlfriend. Now the problem is that he keeps on telling me that his ex-girlfriend used to do this and that and used to give him all her things. He says that he checked her and asked her for money and she gave him all that he needed. Now the problem is that I don’t care for money but I hate to be tested like as if I am a canditate for a job. I don’t know how to tell him that I don’t like it when he tests me or even if I should even tell him that I don’t want to be tested. I would be really relieved of the constant tension if you help me.
Unnamed
I guess it’s too late or pointless to say that you’re too young to be in an open relationship with a guy, so I won’t say that. But I want you to understand the fact that what you are putting up with for the sake of this boyfriend of yours is not worth it. From the way I see it, he’s just looking for an excuse to dump you. Right now, he’s just whining away about things that he feels you lack ... who knows, tomorrow he might just pile up all these complaints and use them to tell you you’re not good enough for him?
But you see, that is not the complete picture to your situation. No one ...and I mean no one has the right to tell you that you are not good enough; or that you are worse off than some other person, and this goes particularly for your friend. If he cares for you that much, he would have never even thought of such a thing, much rather actually tell you that his ex was better than you! Seems to me, he’s just an immature flaky guy who’s fishing around for some cash in any way possible.
So, the choice is yours. If you don’t want to do anything drastic and if you really care for this boy despite the way he’s treating you, the least you SHOULD do is go up to him and tell him you don’t like him constantly nagging you for cash. Tell him to grow up... and if he can’t then he can very well go yapping back to his ex girlfriend!
Remember girl, you are in charge of your own life, and you are just as good as the next person. Besides ... you are so young! Why worry so much about relationships already? There are so many fun things to do which you’ll never find time for later on ... So ... give it a thought, okay? Peace out and good luck.
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