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Super Sis
Dear Super Sis,
I am a girl and I have always, for years, held first position in my class. There is a girl X who has always stood second. She always degrades everyone, specially me! This year, whenever she found out that I got higher marks than she did, she went to the teachers and made an innocent face, persuading them to give her higher marks. That is why she got higher marks and stood first this year. This is disturbing me a lot because she is not playing fair. I don’t want this to happen next year. Please help me!
XYZ.
In every class, there is always one such student who manages to attain high marks because he/she butters up the teachers. You should be proud of yourself that you are not such a person, and you have been acquiring your grade on pure merit.
As for your problem, you should seek out one of your understanding teachers and go talk to him/her about this issue. Give concrete examples of when X buttered her way to the top when actually you deserved the marks. This will give you credibility and the teacher will be ready to take a stand for you, at least in his/her subject. She might even talk to other teachers on your behalf.
If this doesn’t work, then you must content yourself with the fact that everything can’t be perfect, and you know your own true potentials. Besides, this girl X is only getting first positions while she is in school. Once you both take your board exams, the truth will come out itself.
Still not satisfied? Talk to your parents and ask them to complain to your teachers or the department in charge.
Confidential to Sick Taurean,
You are not alone. I have seen many young boys with similar problems as yours and who have come out as winners. First of all, what you need to do is join a gym. Yes; it can do wonders for the most feminine of people. Make a routine of working out at the gym at least 4-5 days a week. This will also give you an opportunity to interact with boys your age, and you will gain confidence. Also, the way they carry themselves will rub off on you inadvertently, and you will notice a natural change in yourself. Believe me, this works.
You should also make some one a role model for yourself... it could be your dad, elder brother, some teacher at school, cousin etc. Watch how he carries himself and try to follow that. This doesn’t mean that you lose yourself in imitating that person. You should simply allow yourself to comfortably carry yourself as a confident young man.
At home, when you speak, listen to yourself closely and try expressing yourself like your role model does. Practice in your room if you want to.
I know it is hard to ignore people who tease you; but hang in there and try. After all, a little while later, the way you carry yourself will change and they will have to swallow their own words when they see what a handsome young man you’ve become. Good luck!
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