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Super Sis
Dear Super Sis
My problem is that I don’t have any confidence like the other girls in my class. They always stand up and answer questions, read and act so boldly, and I’m always hiding my face. My hands shake too when someone looks at me. If anyone talks to me, I blush and sweat. I turn away from guests too.
My mother says, “What are you going to do later in life?” Forget about later, I’m so ashamed of it NOW.
Please, please help me Sis, I want to be more confident.
P.S. Are there any books that could help me?
Upset and good-for-nothing Aquarius
Hey, don’t bash yourself so much! It’s no big deal! Only some people are born confident; most acquire it through age and experience.
If your mother shares your fear with you, she can help you overcome it. She can discuss your problem with your teacher and ask her to call upon you at least once a day in class to answer questions. Gradually you will be able to volunteer answers on your own. The teacher can also be asked to give you minor parts in assemblies, class skits, school plays, etc. At home, your mother can call over a few of your friends once in a while to help you know how to handle guests. She can form a group of parents and children and do a group activity once a week or month. When guests come over to your place, you can start by only greeting them on the first visit, then serving them, then answering their questions, till finally you can make small talk with them.
Every time you have contact with someone, don’t think it went badly; think of the good points and how you will make it even better the next time.
A good makeover also helps boost confidence, get a nice hairdo, some fun clothes, a dental job and so on. You’ll want to show off your goodies to everyone!
By the way, you can’t learn confidence through a book, it’s a practical subject, not a theoretical one!
And did you know everyone experiences sweating, trembling and shortness of breath when in a challenging situation.
Dear Super Sis,
I am a 15-year-old girl with some streaks of white hair in my thick, black beautiful hair. My mother says that I have had white hair since birth. I’ve discussed this problem with many doctors. I was assured by one of the doctors and am currently following his advice.
Well, everywhere I go, people ask me about my white hair and then I give them lame excuses. Some children even call me Dadi Amma. I hate this word now. This makes me so depressed and sometimes I start to cry for myself, and cry so much that my head aches.
Please tell me how to handle this situation.
Anonymous
While the doctor’s treatment is taking its time, why don’t you use some mild hair dye to cover the streaks? Ask your doctor if it is Okay. Then go to a good hairdresser and get a colour job done on your hair. No need to suffer in silence or make excuses.
You shouldn’t have to make excuses anyway. Next time someone asks you such a rude and personal question, do let them know they are stepping out of the line of courtesy and politeness.
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