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Cover Story: Want to Look Good?
Looking good has many meanings. But here we only talk of appearance, since it’s natural that our appearance concerns us a good deal. We are often worried about our looks and also we are apprehensive of how other people see us. Are we sought after in terms of good looks? We will also decide what kind of significance looks carry in our lives and what kind of place should we give to this outward show in our lives. So let’s see what it is all about.
What is appearance?
Different people have different ideas but appearance includes all of our physical features such as height, shoulders and the colour and shape of our eyes.
There is a lot of pressure around us that makes us worry about our looks. Teenagers specially feel insecure about their looks even if they don’t admit it. Magazines, electronic media and advertisements all concentrate on this subject and bombard young minds with warnings about certain looks which remain to be a taboo, like being too fat or too thin. And at this phase of their lives, which is bound to be very emotional, young people tend to get worried.
To worry or not to worry?
It would be foolish to suggest that looks don’t matter at all, but then again one must be aware that looks are not everything. The way one sees himself may not be very accurate as some are very critical of themselves. Someone who has been fat once often think likewise even after losing weight.
Girls are usually unhappy about their appearance and are never satisfied with their features. If they would only relax and see themselves clearly, they might see how unimportant these so-called defects actually are, and worrying about this is totally unwise.
If worried, what to do?
If you think you have a ‘beauty handicap’ — a dark complexion, or a large nose or broad shoulders you have to come out of it. You have to get rid of all the efforts, which are targeted towards making you a carbon copy of some pop star, your popular cousin or your best friend, because you have to remember this is not the key to a successful life. Of course, dieting can help you lose weight; and you can improve the way you look with clothes, hairstyle, skin care and if you wish you could wear make-up too.
You have to look at those around you to realize that every physical type attracts, though not many come up to the standards of the media. It’s surprising to know that some people like plump people. Some go for black hair, others brown. At different times in history, writers and artists have admired high foreheads as well as low broad ones. Some have praised large, round, lustrous eyes and slanting, inscrutable ones; sloping shoulders and square ones.
But when it comes right down to it, you are still left with your own face and figure. If you are average in height or think that you have a snub nose or a rough texture of skin, you can’t trade these for the kind that you like. And they will be with you for a very, very long time. What is the best strategy then? Finding the best in you, because this will help rid yourself of the anxieties about your looks.
There are few ways of overcoming your worries. However, it takes sensibility and confidence to work to achieve your goals.
Working for modifications
The intensity of looking good varies from person to person. So what are the options? People who wish to have a shapely figure join a gym to shed the redundant pounds or seek a dietitian for a strict diet plan. Then the craziest kind opt for cosmetic surgeries. Maybe a little straightening of their nose or reduction of plump cheeks. This is one of the most extravagant ways of introducing changes in one’s self. This really shows how desperately people want to change the way they look. Perhaps they go by the maxim: to establish oneself in the world, one has to do all one can to appear established.
Looking for the best
The key to success, to have a content life is a warm, kind heart and most important, self-acceptance. This will not only help you to have loving relationships which can even make you famous and sought after among the people of your choice but will also help you out of your useless worries. Perhaps, then you can see that you possess a good heart. However, there is one thing more, about which you should also be concerned i.e. good health because good health gives you grace and glow.
We have to keep in mind that outward impressions do not last long and sometimes appearance is also deceiving. It’s like an expensive overcoat, when you take it off you show yourself to everyone, no one wants to show a negative inner reality.
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