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Debate: Are parents being strict?
“Ohh heck! I got to go, my parents must be waiting for me.” “Oh no, I am two hours late, now my mom won’t let me in the house.” “Yaar I can’t come to your house I am forbidden to attend parties.” “Sorry friend I can’t use the computer more than an hour so I must leave now.” Sounds familiar doesn’t it?
How many times do we repeat these sentences and embarrass ourselves in front of our friends? More than once a day. But how many times do we actually understand our parents’ motives and intentions behind these sentences? Hardly once a month, a year or perhaps never.
It seems absolutely wrong for our parents to be so strict in minor situations and yet act so cool in major ones.
We, the teenagers always perceive that our parents don’t trust us and they always misjudge us. We accuse them of things they don’t even do.
It should always be remembered that parents have gone through the same phase of life which we are facing now. Obviously they know a lot more than us and are aware of the wrong situations in which we can get involved. Being our guardians and being more experienced, they feel it’s their right to protect us and lead us onto the right path. Therefore, they just boss around and put restrictions on us. We, on the other hand being unaware of what might happen to us or what we might do, are just astonished by our parents’ behaviour and have difficulty adjusting to this. We want to live our life in peace and have complete independence, which is very natural. We don’t want to be protected everywhere and we loathe them when they nag us all the time.
Even though they are wrong at times, yet they only do what they do out of love.
When our parents ask us not to indulge in bad company, they actually mean to protect us from drugs, smoking and other wrong practices. When they tell us not to spend a lot of time on the Net they want us to work hard and focus on our studies. On the other hand we think that our parents don’t trust us. Moreover we assume that our guardians think that we are not responsible at all. Furthermore when they teach us not to get involved in the luxuries of the world, they actually intend to make us God-fearing and help us lead our lives in accordance to the teachings of Islam.
When we accuse our parents of being overprotective all the time . It’s not that they don’t trust us ... it’s just that there is a lot of misunderstanding. Parents misunderstand us as far as studies, entertainment and relationships are concerned. These misunderstandings are often because of the generation gap. Yesss, generation gap! Parents fail to understand us because they compare us with their own childhood. They don’t realize that the world has changed with time.
Then we also have problems communicating. Yeah, lack of communication is a huge problem too. There are hardly any daily interactions between us. We feel that our parents ignore us because they are busy in their own work. While they feel that we aren’t interested in them due to the age difference. In this case both the sides remain at a loss.
It’s natural for parents to love us more than anything else in the world but it is actually this love that makes them over protective and possessive. Consequently they take away our independence.
In more than 75 per cent of daily life situations parents expect so much from us that it’s difficult for us to come up to their expectations. If by chance we fail to do so we are criticized. I am 90 per cent sure that 99.99 per cent of the problems between us are due to the above mentioned reasons. But wherever there’s a problem ... there’s a solution, too.
Parents should trust us and spend more time with us so that they can understand us more. At the same time we must remember that our parents love us the most in the world and whatever they do is for our own good. And if at times they are too demanding then we should remind them of our rights without forgetting their responsibilities. By spending more and more time with them we’ll get a comfortable atmosphere to live in and a lot of love.
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