Amber and Tahir met when they were both studying for their Masters’ degree at one of the local universities. It was love at first sight. They were inseparable throughout their time at the university, and when Tahir finally proposed, Amber said yes. Initially, their marriage seemed a success. They both got jobs at good firms and loved each other like crazy, respecting each other’s strengths in every possible way.
In a few years though, Amber had out-paced Tahir both financially and in prestige. She was the head of two divisions at her company. Tahir was still a manager at his. She was earning almost twice of what Tahir was. He asked her to quit her job, citing her lack of commitment to the family as an excuse. She refused on the grounds that she had not neglected her family. Their marriage finally ended in divorce.
Rabia and Shariq were also the perfect couple. They had been together since their school years, and later joined the same business university. They loved and understood each other perfectly. However, when the time came to propose, Shariq married a girl of their choice. Rabia went her own way.
Nausheen joined a pharmaceutical company after graduation. Fifteen years later, she was the head of its quality assurance department and richer. She should have received many proposals, right? Not really. Nobody wanted to marry a mature woman who was financially independent, too.
Imran was the perfect guy. Handsome, rich and very charming. He stayed with the same girl throughout his university life. But when the time came to marry, he chose someone else. The reason was that he wanted a more home-oriented woman for his wife.
Jehanzeb and Waqar both went out with a host of women during their years of bachelorhood. But they have both gotten married to girls hailing from their respective ancestral villages.
Nadia and Faisal have just gotten married recently. While she is a gold medalist in Organic Chemistry, he is a graduate. They both met in the company where they worked and fell in love. It’s been barely three months, but already the marriage is showing signs of strain. Faisal usually stays quiet while Nadia talks. She wants to do her MBA and is also lined up for a promotion. Faisal will take another three years before he can reach the position she will soon be at. But most of all, Faisal is starting to feel like he doesn’t matter anymore.
More and more women are joining the work force everyday. Highly qualified, hardworking, and very good at what they do, somehow these women are getting bypassed as the first choice in marriage to others who are no match to them professionally. If logic be employed, these women should be the first choice. Not only are they helping out their husbands to provide for their families, they are putting to good use the other 51 per cent of the country’s work force. Yet, somehow it is the girl who has done her Bachelors or lower and just wants to sit at home who is the first choice by a boy’s family for marriage.
The reasons cited for this behaviour are many. Most families don’t like working women because of the financial freedom they enjoy. They think that they will not remain dependent on their husbands and are less likely to do what the family wants. Interaction with males at the office is also looked down by most.
Also, a highly-educated female is seen as one who will dominate her husband and the family, creating conflicts and issues, and breaking up a stable unit.
When you look at it, a highly-educated woman is a better choice as a life partner. She would be a far better mother than one who is barely literate. Because of her highly-developed intellectual skills, she would try and inculcate the same in her own children. It is now a proven fact that the children of highly-educated parents tend to be far ahead of their peers in terms of intellectual and educational skills, sometimes commanding excessively-high IQs.
Amber and Tahir met when they were both studying for their Masters’ degree at one of the local universities. It was love at first sight. They were inseparable throughout their time at the university, and when Tahir finally proposed, Amber said yes. Initially, their marriage seemed a success. They both got jobs at good firms and loved each other like crazy, respecting each other’s strengths in every possible way.
