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It was harder managing kids and work during marriage, says Mikaal Zulfiqar's ex wife

It was harder managing kids and work during marriage, says Mikaal Zulfiqar's ex wife

Sara Mikaal asks people to appreciate mothers for the work they do, irrespective of whether they're divorced or not.
Updated 29 Apr, 2017

After a month of silence over her divorce, Mikaal Zulfiqar's wife Sara has finally addressed people's concern about raising her kids as a single mother.

In a Facebook post, Sara said her inbox was 'flooded' with questions after Mikaal publicly announced their divorce on social media, however, there was one query she felt the need to answer: "How do you manage your children and work?"

"Be it a working mother or a stay-at-home mother, she is fully responsible for the household and kids," she wrote, explaining that the duties of a mother towards her children does not change, whether married or divorced.

Comparing her life now -- a divorced, single mother of two daughters -- to her married life, Sara feels she has less responsibility and that marriage was in fact, 'tougher'.

"Has my life changed after the divorce? Nope. I'm still responsible for the house and kids. The responsibility of a husband has been alleviated, which means I had more responsibilities when I was married."

She added, "Very few showed overwhelming concern about how I managed work and kids back then. And back then was actually tougher. Yes, I fully, 100% support my children financially, emotionally and physically, but it was still harder before."

In her post, she asks people to "appreciate what our women are doing for us and our society," as it's not "just single mothers who have a tough time, married women are working just as hard, maybe harder sometimes."

However, Sara was thankful for the men in her life for sharing equal responsibility and acknowledged that such men are 'so few'.

Mikaal and Sara were married for six years and have two daughters.

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annie Apr 29, 2017 09:34am
you are better off. more power to you.
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Abdulla Hussain Apr 29, 2017 10:49am
@annie; No it wasn't a good thing to happen, more power less authority, a women is better off in the company of her husband., she should re marry asap.
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omar Apr 29, 2017 11:13am
Why are you still using HIS last name. Also, please keep your personal "drama" to yourself.
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Asad Apr 29, 2017 12:00pm
She got less responsibilities now, but the kids have been deprived of seeing their parents together and growing up as normal persons, thus.
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Thoroughthinker Apr 29, 2017 01:09pm
She is just shying away from real facts. No life is complete for children without father. Daughters are always father's favorite and raising them as good responsible persons in life needs grooming by both parents. It is a responsibility nobody can deny their children and get away with.
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Saraemaan Apr 29, 2017 02:41pm
Wait a second she is 100% supporting her kids financially. Why? He is suppose to give child support and for that she shuld take him to court. Islamicly that's her and her kids right on this man. Clearly our Islamic countries lack in protecting and building a proper economic system for families.
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Princess_of_DHUMP Apr 29, 2017 03:07pm
@Abdulla Hussain Her decision. Not yours and mine. I wonder why people even share their most intimate problems with the whole world? Publicity? Before today who knew Sara?
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Amir iqbal Apr 29, 2017 05:25pm
Why are sooo many stars getting divorced? Seems like there is an explosion of divorce cases in Pakistan. Much more than there is among the stars in India.
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Ratti Apr 29, 2017 06:16pm
No one realises that when a wife is working also, she actually carries more responsibility on her shoulders than the husband. But then to work is her right and cooperation from the husband is needed to keep the marriage going.
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Aslan Apr 30, 2017 02:43am
Methinks that the husband was probably not paying his due financial role in the marriage. Probably the eife was doing better. So she as being the more powerful earner thought of why not end the whole thing, as she then has to not care about supporting him as well..just the kids. It is surprising that some people still do not think kf marriage but as a responsibility to manage through thick and thin. Just something for easy life.
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nasr Apr 30, 2017 07:19am
Sad to see this happen but it seems in the last two decades this divorce stigma has become rampant in our society. The society and culture has changed drastically and by leap and bound. The one and only reason is as new vistas of communication technologies has thrived and knowledge and social media activity has increased in this ever expanding internet age people have become more liberal and open and influenced in their thinking and in making drastic decisions.
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Well wisheR Apr 30, 2017 10:35am
Though it was a personal matter still I feel sorry for a nice couple. There may be valid reasons but marriage is all about compromise. A life time pledge to honour. It is always better to mend than repent-a teaching. Children suffer most .
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MB Apr 30, 2017 12:10pm
Good for her! It is better to be raised by happily divorced parents than two parents married and miserable together!
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Abdulla Hussain Apr 30, 2017 01:04pm
What may have gone wrong with their relationship, what about the two beautiful kids they were blessed with, shattered for life. When they grow old they will be justified to give a damn to their parent.
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soha Apr 30, 2017 10:36pm
i adored the couple, they seem perfect together. marriage is all about sharing responsibilities, the mistakes and misunderstandings from both sides must have ruined he marriage. we do not know what the cause was but surely we are nobodies to judge them.. and no doubt, in our society, wives are thought to be the culprits of divorce, and they are labelled DIVORCED mercilessly...
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whit e noise May 01, 2017 08:17am
everyone goes through that, from bricklayers to doctors, if you could not handle this, why did you even got married? if so, why you had kids then? now they will pay the price just cause both of you were incompetent to play your role.
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JustMe May 01, 2017 09:34am
@Thoroughthinker For kids to grow up with a father/mother, there is no need to live a unhappy life with your spouse. The father will stay the kids' father after divorce, nothing changes there. She is totally right with her thoughts in this case though, some spouses just add a lot more work, especially emotional work. Wish her happiness and luck!
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XY May 01, 2017 11:26pm
@Abdulla Hussain for kids what matters most is the love they get from parents even if parents are divorced. There are enough kids whose parents got divorced but they took enough care if their kids to help them get past the pain of it. And those children respect and love their parents as much as before.
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Sana May 02, 2017 10:51am
Dawn requires to fill these pages.. really now we have to read this too !!!!
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