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We need to stop letting Bollywood bad boys off the hook, starting with Salman Khan

We need to stop letting Bollywood bad boys off the hook, starting with Salman Khan

His philanthropy shouldn't give him a lifetime pass for mansplaining, involuntary manslaughter and misogyny
Updated 22 Feb, 2018

Amid the uproar on Twitter over Salman Khan's insensitive rape-related remark, an alarming number of voices have emerged in defense of the actor.

This isn't a first. Salman is the drunk driver who ran over four people, killing one, and fled the scene. Yet his friends in Bollywood chose to blame people sleeping on the road rather than his own recklessness.

It's time for us to change the conversation about Bhai; it's time to show him the mirror and perhaps, take a long, hard look at ourselves as well while we're at it.

Stop enabling misogyny by giving it an audience

I'm aware that Salman realised he had made a faux pas almost immediately. His "when I used to walk out of the ring after the shoot, I used to feel like a raped woman. I couldn’t walk straight," comment was followed by a sheepish "I don't think I should have...", but not before it shed light on how we use everyday language to trivialise rape, not to mention how blind hero worshipping has chucked rational thinking out the window, but more on that later.


Want to know what's worse? That a bunch of reporters in the room laughed like it was a joke.


Let's just clarify that he wasn't making a joke. He made an analogy about his physical condition, equating it with the effects of rape on a victim's body. In doing so, he made an assumption about what a victim goes through when/after she has been raped, undermining and trivialising her suffering.

No, it's not okay to say "what kind of rape was that?" after you leave the examination hall (I've heard it myself), or "man, I just raped you in Fifa", like it's an accomplishment. It's not okay when you say it to your group of friends and it sure isn't okay when Salman says it in a press conference where he has more reach than the average Joe.

You see, language is key. When you encourage a tone that takes away from the enormity of sexual assault, it starts to snowball and perpetuate a culture that disregards the safety and well-being of women.

This is doubly true when a cherished figure like Salman does it. He can not escape the responsibility he has to the public at large; it comes with the territory.

Read this letter penned by the Stanford survivor Mr Khan and then tell me: did you really feel all that, violated and helpless to name a few emotions, when you wrapped up shooting a scene for your next macho man movie, a project that'll surely earn you ample praise, coupled with a hefty paycheck?

'But Sallu Bhai can do no wrong'

If there's one thing the 51-year-old has going for him, it's his savvy PR team. They've got everyone just lapping up his highly-advertised ‘Being Human’ image.

He's a member of society who gives back but does that automatically absolve him of all criticism and give him a lifetime hall pass for involuntary manslaughter and mansplaining misogyny?

No one is discrediting the good work he does but he must be held accountable for his wrongdoings.
No one is discrediting the good work he does but he must be held accountable for his wrongdoings.

When you rally behind Khan when he has erred time and time again, you're reaffirming that the rich and influential can get away with anything. We swept his total disregard of endangered wildlife under the rug, like we did his harassment of former Miss World Aishwarya Rai after their breakup and his bullying of singer Arijit Singh.

When you rise in clamour to defend this man, know that you're lending your support to the guy who subtly threatened a journalist into killing a story about him, a repeat offender who has a history of using his grip on the industry to intimidate women and men alike and has never faced any consequences for his actions.

Salman is the 51-year-old version of the school yard bully who gets his way by hook or by crook
Salman is the 51-year-old version of the school yard bully who gets his way by hook or by crook

Throw in his complete lack of remorse, his deafening silence rather than an apology and you've really got to be delusional not to call a spade a spade.

But hey, on the bright side, things might just be looking up. He did say in a press conference yesterday that he should talk less; here's hoping he takes his own advice.

We have to take the blindfold off at some point. We have to stop being apologists for celebrities and admit that being Salman isn't the same as being human. Far from it, actually.

Comments

Yousuf Jun 24, 2016 03:31pm
He should be jailed
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MT Jun 24, 2016 03:44pm
Yes all the three khans are crooks... sallu topping the list followed br amir khan shahruhkh is abit better But all khans and most other movie actors have bloated and useless ego .... as if they are over some untouchable pedestal ......... thats needs to be punctured including some fake so-called stardom. There are very few genuine/humble movie actors.
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Dipak Singh Jun 24, 2016 03:52pm
Excellent article. well written Anum.
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Satish Kumar Dogra Jun 24, 2016 03:55pm
So much in our movies presents woman as a plaything. In an item song a half-clad girl is dragged around like a piece of flesh by jackals. No one makes an issue of that. On top of that comes Udata Punjab which has opened the floodgates of abusive words all focused on a woman and her private parts. No one sees anything odd in that. If Salman describes his tough experience of shooting by comparing it with the physical trauma of a woman who has been handled roughly against her wishes, it becomes an issue to thrash him with. I am no-one's fan, but let us be fare to a man who often speaks his heart out, and rarely ever indulges in politics.
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Alibaba Jun 24, 2016 04:17pm
100% agree with the writer.
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hemanth Jun 24, 2016 04:18pm
does pakistan have a film industry ?
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ABC Jun 24, 2016 04:21pm
Mad blindfolded fans give this stars demigod status. Recently Irrfan Khan said that it's a pitiful condition of society because we look for inspiration from some people who take money and do their job(i.e.acting),yearn for publicity but we hardly pay attention to doctors,scientists and teachers who make the base of society stronger. In reality, everyone face difficulties in achieving a goal,but the difference is - actors gain publicity and 'fans', hardly anyone become fan of inventor of polio vaccine or master of science Nicola tesla, though their contribution to society is unmatched.
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mkb Jun 24, 2016 04:27pm
Though I like Salman than other 2 Khans, I do not subscribe his comment. It is indeed a bad comment, he can easily use other word for such terrible hectic schedule. It is time to express his apology . Senior Khan - Salman's father Salim Khan already rendered apology on behalf of Salman)
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SwamyG Jun 24, 2016 04:31pm
One Salman Khan is not our problem; we couldn't care less. Out problem is all those who pay him attention and amplify what he barfs. Our problem is how he is showing that some people can live by different set of rules and get away with it. He is setting a very bad and extremely dangerous precedent that you can kill people, kill protected animals, demean people in public and get away with all these. On my part, I will not watch another Salman Khan movie again!
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Karma Jun 24, 2016 04:31pm
..He doesn't know how much pain raped victims go through and how they are treated in India......In rural parts, they are treated as untouchables and doubt anybody would marry any rape victims........family members blame the victims for the rape......that's why you see a lot of the victims commit suicide in rural India ......Read many a times that rape victims are again in some hospitals.... I remember few months back a rape victim wasn't allowed to entire a restaurant in Kolkota city because she was on TV expressing her helplessness......this is the state of our country ..so-called incredible India.........nobody will feel the pain until they become victim themselves...
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Fried Chillies Jun 24, 2016 05:06pm
Kudos to Anum who refuses to be blinded and calls a spade a spade. And rightly pointing out the insensitivity over the use of the word in public discourse. If people have ever suffered a fracture you will realize the pain of rape is multifold since it shatters the soul and body!!
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Aamer Jun 24, 2016 05:17pm
@hemanth fyi yes Pakistan has a film industry and is improving
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expatriate Jun 24, 2016 05:51pm
It is unfortunate that Salman used "rape" as a way of express the pain. I believe Salman was sincere in reflecting the pain of a raped women. I think he should be appreciated for vocalizing the trauma and pain of a raped woman, which unfortunately happens routinely in that part of the world.
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Afiah Jun 24, 2016 06:19pm
Finally a sane voice.
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Naveen Jun 24, 2016 06:32pm
Very well written
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Cheema Jun 24, 2016 06:53pm
Guys chill, these Khan's have a habit of creating useless controversy before film release for free publicity .like intolerance earlier , now this
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Asif Jun 24, 2016 07:28pm
Get over it now.
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Yogi equal Jogi Jun 24, 2016 08:57pm
Salman Khan should apologies.
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Karan-Mumbai Jun 24, 2016 09:33pm
No one in Bollywood will stand against him unless it's Shahrukh Khan... He had ruined Vivek Oberois career for many years for looking him in the eye.
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anonymous Jun 24, 2016 09:40pm
Salman Khan is making reckless comments without realizing the implications. If he just thinks a little before he talks then things wont be that bad. I don't think he is being malicious. At worst, he is just careless, the way he made the remarks. The media is blowing this out of proportion, to create some news.
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Snow leopard Jun 24, 2016 09:40pm
Salman should have been sensitive and not made such comparisons. If by mistake made it should have apologized. And if he didn't apologize then also it shouldn't have been such a media hype
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KnowTheTruth Jun 24, 2016 09:45pm
Making such pathetic and insensitive comments is no big deal for Bhai who can get away from the law after killing endangered blackbucks and riding his car over footpath dwellers. All it takes is money and a strong PR campaign. I would blame the common people who take such pathetic actors and insensitive characters on top of their heads.
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proud indian Jun 25, 2016 12:07am
@Yogi equal Jogi correct spelling is apologize not apologies
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Tahir Jun 25, 2016 12:12am
@Satish Kumar Dogra very nice yar. Awsome
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divergence Jun 25, 2016 12:57am
He is just one of those "protected guys" who are living in their own cocoons, what matters is why a common person can't see what someone actually is and what mentality is hidden behind the "celebrity" facade, at the end of the day, the blame falls on the followers of such celebrities whose crimes and mentality slap in other people's faces.
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Aamir Jun 25, 2016 02:21am
>Mansplaining Third wave feminism has arrived in Pakistan unfortunately it seems.
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Ahsan Gul Jun 25, 2016 04:30am
Totally agree with you. Actors have made millions because audience liked their movies and supported them. As they are called stars in our culture , don't you think that they owe sensible and clean thought process for the same audiance who made them star? Public imitate these actors in their real life as you know. Instead of inspring innocent public Salaman corrupting them. He must apologize and should be held responsible for any incident that his wording may cause. Sincerely
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Ali Jun 25, 2016 04:55am
I think the writer and all the women in the world need to chill, every word and action a man doesn't have to be raped and turned into feminist headache
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Agha Ata Jun 25, 2016 06:32am
Every great man does wrong things. Imagine how many of us do the similar thing every day. But bringing down a great actor- producer isn't desirable. These small things have nothing to do with his greatness as an actor.
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Khwarezmi Jun 25, 2016 07:16am
We need to stop...focusing on Indians which hold no relevance to the ordinary Pakistani.
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sriguru Jun 25, 2016 08:10am
Brilliant article, jail this Salman like Pistorious only this ego bloated fellows crimes are higher, no exception jail for 20 years at least,
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ajit kundu Jun 25, 2016 08:12am
We have the unjustified common habit of expecting famous film actors or cricket players to say the right thing,,,,feel and behave in certain ways which we think is socially as well as politically correct. But why should an actor or a cricketer should be expected to posses any set of skills other than in which he excels? After all what he is obviously not is an author,thinker,philosopher or a social reformer. But then again what stops them from being a sensitive human being is something to wonder about. Isn't it ? May be these remarkable category of people secretly aspire to be successful vote catching divisive politician.
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Ajay vikram Singh Jun 25, 2016 08:18am
@anonymous - Yeh right. Killing people. Killing animals. beating women. Drug and alcohol abuse. Connections with underworld and criminals - Yeh he is just careless. Wow!
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Raj Patel Jun 25, 2016 09:20am
If he is not Salman nobody would have paid any attention.
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nmantri Jun 25, 2016 10:30am
He is a pure unadulterated buffoon consumed with a frightening dose of puerile megalomania judged by normal Indian film industry standards. He simply is a petty criminal who should be in jail. I am deeply impressed that Dawn has dared to point out to what entire India should be aware of but refuses to see it. It says a lot about us Indians too that is just repugnant.
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Kryptonite Jun 25, 2016 01:30pm
We need to stop letting bollywood bad boys off the hook. Who is this 'we' this article is talking about? Is it Pakistan?
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divergence Jun 25, 2016 09:28pm
@Kryptonite Without fans, these stars are below zero
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